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Old 12-17-2009, 09:49 AM   #1
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December 17, 1969. Funny how clear the memories of that day.

Sleeping over at a high school buddy's house and being sent on our way to school after a full breakfast prepared my his mom. She and my mom worked together waitressing and were great friends and were going to finalize their Christmas shopping later that day.

Took my usual walk off campus for my smoke break at lunch time (yeah, smoking already for 3 years at age 15) and walked past the Lutheran school nearby, where I stopped and chatted with my baby sister while she was on recess. I still see her face through the fence to this day.

Memory is a little fuzzier until I get home, I would suppose well after school's over. 3 mile walk rather than a bus ride. They frowned on smoking on the bus.

Once home, the phone rings and my step-dad gets a call and says there's been an accident. I remember trying to reassure him all the way on our 40 mile trip to the hospital that it can't be that bad or they would have told us.

I still remember the smell of the emergency room waiting area and just how all the furniture was arranged. The doctor comes in and quietly talks to my step-dad and takes him into another room. That's when I heard the wail, the wail I still hear today. It's then I realize how bad it can be.

While finishing up shopping, my mom's car was broad-sided by someone, in town, mind you, who was late for work and decided that speed limit and stop signs be damned, I need to get to work. There in the blink of an eye, my mom, my baby sister, and my buddy's mom all went to meet Jesus. 40 years young for the ladies, 9 years young for my sister.

Is it a wonder that Christmas presents don't quite have the luster for me they once had. It definitely puts the holidays in the proper perspective. It's about family and friends sharing their company with one another. The other stuff is just that, stuff.

I'll be smoking a good one later today with a tear in remembrance.
Smoke 'em if you've got 'em and tell the friends and family they're loved.
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:31 AM   #2
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Default Re: 40 years ago today

Memories can be a curse or a blessing. And, it's always more vivid when those memories involve the holiday season. Some will always hurt. All you can do sometimes is try to focus on the good memories. God bless you as you remember your Mom, baby sister and your friend's Mom.
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:38 AM   #3
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Thoughts & Prayers Sent For You & Your Family, Tim, During This Difficult Time. Thanks For Sharing, Brother.
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:40 AM   #4
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Love ya buddy, and will be praying for yall.
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:40 AM   #5
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Thoughts and prayers sent.
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It's about family and friends sharing their company with one another. The other stuff is just that, stuff.

I'll be smoking a good one later today with a tear in remembrance.
Smoke 'em if you've got 'em and tell the friends and family they're loved.

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers, but this was what I was hoping was taken from the story.

It's all good.

...and I love you all.
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:50 AM   #7
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I'll be smoking a good one later today with a tear in remembrance.
Smoke 'em if you've got 'em and tell the friends and family they're loved.
Agreed.

I lost my dad much too soon on Dec. 12 years back. This time of year is always sort of bittersweet for me.
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:51 AM   #8
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Tim, thank you so much for sharing a very difficult and terrible thing with us and for reminding us what's really important. My thoughts go out to you and your family today.
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:52 AM   #9
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Thanks for the thoughts and prayers, but this was what I was hoping was taken from the story.

It's all good.

...and I love you all.

Tim, thanks for this story and the perspective. Things can happen really fast and sometimes we don't get a reminder of what's important so thank you for that as well.
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Old 12-17-2009, 11:18 AM   #10
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Old 12-17-2009, 11:18 AM   #11
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Tim, I most certainly will join you in your tribute to your mom, sister and friends mom! It is tragic. I hug my wife and son every day. Say the things that should be said today, right now.

I love you brother! May the peace and love of the Lord bless you all of your days!
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Old 12-17-2009, 11:30 AM   #12
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Tim, thinking about you and your family on this day. Tear in my eye and prayers in my heart.

God Bless and Merry Christmas.
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Old 12-17-2009, 11:37 AM   #13
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Tim... the strength and courage you had in dealing with this is remarkable.

I am sorry for this loss from so many years ago. I am thankful that you are here and part of this community. Enjoy your family this Christmas and know that there are folks here at CA who love and support you, bro.
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Old 12-17-2009, 11:41 AM   #14
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Thanks for the reminder, Tim. It's sad that things like this are what make us realize the important things in life. Thoughts and prayers sent to you and your family during this time. I know it's been a long time but you never "get over" a personal loss such as this.
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Thank You Tim.
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Old 12-17-2009, 11:47 AM   #16
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Thanks for sharing this story. You have a remarkable writing ability and the point is well taken. God Bless you and yours this Christmas.
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This will be my second Christmas since cancer took my sister. Her and I always bought each other the best gifts. It's just not the same. I even see things in stores and thunk how much she would love it. I will expand my thoughts and prayers to you and your family. And I think I will sit on my porch after midnight mass and have a smoke on the porch alone with my memories of great Christmas past.
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Old 12-17-2009, 12:37 PM   #18
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Have lost quite a few family members in the last few years myself Tim, and will most certainly smoke a special cigar and remember them and think of you and your loss and all the other brothers and sisters here who have lost as well.
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A prayer goes out to you and your family.
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Old 12-17-2009, 01:00 PM   #20
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Thank you for sharing!
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