I'm migrating

Don Fernando · 01-29-2018, 03:10 AM

right now I really don't know what to say, i'm numb, i'm on an emotional rollercoaster.

I'm married to a wonderful women from Singapore, she has two kids from a previous marriage, an 18 year old son and a 7 year old daughter. I have a great bond with the little girl, even though I have only seen her irl a few times and through video calls a lot.

The plan was for my wife and daughter to move her, son made a choice to stay behind but an hour ago we got the verdict from the custody, we can't remove the little girl from Singapore. So I will have to migrate there.

I try to focus on the positive, I will be with the woman I love, with my stepdaughter that I love, with my stepson but I will miss my friends, my family. I will also have to sell my 3 storey, 3 bedroom, mancave with walk-in house with a waterfront garden to move into a 2 bedroom apartment with a small kitchen. And into a country with extreme high tobacco taxes.

My wife has a small social circle, rents an apartment so her moving here would have been way less troublesome. She also really wants to move out of Singapore while I am neutral on where to live. So the outcome of the verdict blew our plans and I'm pretty numb right now.

Tio Gato · 01-29-2018, 06:44 AM

Ferdi, I'm sorry for the situation you are in. I have no advice to offer. Know this though, with love and family you can and will overcome all any obstacles in life. When life throws you a curve ball knock it outta the park.

When you're with those you love life can be joyfull anywhere. Home truly is where the heart is. Good luck brother.

Da Klugs · 01-29-2018, 07:07 AM

So you finally get to be with the woman you love. Congratulations!!

(In the long run that's all that matters).

CigarNut · 01-29-2018, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Da Klugs

So you finally get to be with the woman you love. Congratulations!!

(In the long run that's all that matters).

What he said!!

AdamJoshua · 01-29-2018, 08:26 AM

Have to go with love, it makes every day better no matter where you are!

mosesbotbol · 01-29-2018, 09:08 AM

I have spent some time working in Singapore. I can see the good and bad living there. I wouldn't mind living there if I had a good job. Millionaires are the norm it seems. Will you be able to work? I didn't find cigar prices any higher than most of EU. Certainly better selection than EU. Liquor prices are really high, but there's plenty of good happy hours. Changi airport has reduced liquor prices. Everyone eats out, so small kitchen is the norm out there. At least airfare to SIN is cheap and you can see so many cool places so easily from there.

Just thinking of the food in Singapore is making me hungry!

Don Fernando · 01-29-2018, 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by mosesbotbol

I have spent some time working in Singapore. I can see the good and bad living there. I wouldn't mind living there if I had a good job. Millionaires are the norm it seems. Will you be able to work? I didn't find cigar prices any higher than most of EU. Certainly better selection than EU. Liquor prices are really high, but there's plenty of good happy hours. Changi airport has reduced liquor prices. Everyone eats out, so small kitchen is the norm out there. At least airfare to SIN is cheap and you can see so many cool places so easily from there.

Just thinking of the food in Singapore is making me hungry!

Cigar prices are WAY WAY WAY higher than in most of the EU, except for the UK. And I will either start my own business of look for a job there.

massphatness · 01-29-2018, 09:44 AM

Opportunities out of obstacles, Ferdie -- take some time to assess, reflect and let it sink in. I know it wasn't your plan, but maybe someone else has a different plan for you.

Best of luck!

mosesbotbol · 01-29-2018, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Don Fernando

Cigar prices are WAY WAY WAY higher than in most of the EU, except for the UK. And I will either start my own business of look for a job there.

Did you ever make it over the Regent for cigars? I paid around $25 for ERDM Grande Espana which is hard enough to find a vendor.

How much are you seeing rents for an apartment? I thought they averaged around 4-7K a month?

icehog3 · 01-29-2018, 10:13 AM

Ferdie, stay positive and focus on the reason for the move....Love. Hopefully everything else will fall into place.

Don Fernando · 01-29-2018, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by mosesbotbol

Did you ever make it over the Regent for cigars? I paid around $25 for ERDM Grande Espana which is hard enough to find a vendor.

How much are you seeing rents for an apartment? I thought they averaged around 4-7K a month?

Not the regent, but other cigar places like Olde Cuban and some shops.

depending on the area, my wife rents an apartment for 1100 now but with the money I will get from selling my house here we will be able to buy a 3 bedroom 2 bathroom apartment with hardly any mortgage

mosesbotbol · 01-29-2018, 11:02 AM

It's only like 12-13 hour flight from AMS to SNG...

Just think it's like 20 hour flight from US... My girlfriend hated the flight when she came to visit...

Don Fernando · 01-29-2018, 11:37 AM

"only"

I prefer flying KLM over Singapore Airlines because of the departure time, SG departs 11 am, so by the time I arrive its the time my body thinks its bedtime, yet with the time difference the day there just starts (landing between 6 and 7 am). KLM departs 9 pm, so watch a movie, have dinner, pop a sleeping pill and wake up 8 hours later for breakfast, and arrival is around 4 pm. So only a few hours to kill before bedtime.

mosesbotbol · 01-29-2018, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Don Fernando

"only"

I prefer flying KLM over Singapore Airlines because of the departure time, SG departs 11 am, so by the time I arrive its the time my body thinks its bedtime, yet with the time difference the day there just starts (landing between 6 and 7 am). KLM departs 9 pm, so watch a movie, have dinner, pop a sleeping pill and wake up 8 hours later for breakfast, and arrival is around 4 pm. So only a few hours to kill before bedtime.

The US flights seem to get there around 3 AM or some equally awful hour. There are no direct flights from the US.

Ashcan Bill · 01-29-2018, 01:15 PM

Life's an adventure and you're off on a new one my friend. If it's a custody of a minor thing, it doesn't have to be a finite situation anyway. Who knows if you'll settle there in the long run or not. Embrace the present and remember being together is what matters.

mosesbotbol · 01-29-2018, 01:49 PM

I'd love to work in Singapore except for they really work you there! Not like working in other parts of Asia or US.

RevSmoke · 01-29-2018, 06:57 PM

Wow! I thought I replied to this thread the other day, but the post I thought I had posted is not here. Either I am losing my mind or...

OK, no comments.

Anyway, here is what I had said (sort of, I think I said it better the other day).

When you take a vow "to love," you are not promising to have a "feeling" in your heart toward the other.

"To Love" is to do for another what brings them benefit, even at the expense of, or the sacrifice of self. It is obvious that you have chosen "to love" her and her daughter, and that is exemplary.

I will keep you in my prayers, as this is never easy.

And, I thank you for showing us how what it means "to love" and how that sacrifice works.

Peace of the Lord be with you.

Don Fernando · 01-30-2018, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by mosesbotbol

I'd love to work in Singapore except for they really work you there! Not like working in other parts of Asia or US.

44 hours a week is normal, and 2 weeks of paid vacation where I come from a 40 hours max and 5 weeks of paid vacation.

I'm probably starting my own business there, working from home, on my own pac

IBQTEE1 · 02-09-2018, 11:10 AM

Hang in there. Everything will work out in the end.

01-29-2018, 03:10 AM	#1
Don Fernando Postwhore Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Ferdinand Location: Singapore Posts: 10,070 Trading: (29)	I'm migrating right now I really don't know what to say, i'm numb, i'm on an emotional rollercoaster. I'm married to a wonderful women from Singapore, she has two kids from a previous marriage, an 18 year old son and a 7 year old daughter. I have a great bond with the little girl, even though I have only seen her irl a few times and through video calls a lot. The plan was for my wife and daughter to move her, son made a choice to stay behind but an hour ago we got the verdict from the custody, we can't remove the little girl from Singapore. So I will have to migrate there. I try to focus on the positive, I will be with the woman I love, with my stepdaughter that I love, with my stepson but I will miss my friends, my family. I will also have to sell my 3 storey, 3 bedroom, mancave with walk-in house with a waterfront garden to move into a 2 bedroom apartment with a small kitchen. And into a country with extreme high tobacco taxes. My wife has a small social circle, rents an apartment so her moving here would have been way less troublesome. She also really wants to move out of Singapore while I am neutral on where to live. So the outcome of the verdict blew our plans and I'm pretty numb right now. __________________ check out my reviews on my blog.

01-29-2018, 06:44 AM	#2
Tio Gato Uncle Kitty Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Jeff Location: Casa Grande, AZ Posts: 2,079 Trading: (11)	Re: I'm migrating Ferdi, I'm sorry for the situation you are in. I have no advice to offer. Know this though, with love and family you can and will overcome all any obstacles in life. When life throws you a curve ball knock it outta the park. When you're with those you love life can be joyfull anywhere. Home truly is where the heart is. Good luck brother. __________________ "You stink like cigars Uncle Kitty!" Said my Boo age 3. "Kid, take care of your family and the hell with anyone else" My Grandpa Bubba.

01-29-2018, 07:07 AM	#3
Da Klugs Juan of 11 Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Dave Location: Right here Posts: 4,222 Trading: (8)	Re: I'm migrating So you finally get to be with the woman you love. Congratulations!! (In the long run that's all that matters). __________________ Communities Not Commodities. Punctuation challenged, but trying. Proud winner of phase 1 of the Weight loss contest

01-29-2018, 08:26 AM	#5
AdamJoshua Article 4 Free Inhabitant Join Date: Jan 2013 First Name: The Other Adam Location: Satellite Beach Posts: 14,787 Trading: (40)	Re: I'm migrating Have to go with love, it makes every day better no matter where you are!

01-29-2018, 09:08 AM	#6
mosesbotbol That's a Corgi Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moses Location: Boston Posts: 6,171 Trading: (6)	Re: I'm migrating I have spent some time working in Singapore. I can see the good and bad living there. I wouldn't mind living there if I had a good job. Millionaires are the norm it seems. Will you be able to work? I didn't find cigar prices any higher than most of EU. Certainly better selection than EU. Liquor prices are really high, but there's plenty of good happy hours. Changi airport has reduced liquor prices. Everyone eats out, so small kitchen is the norm out there. At least airfare to SIN is cheap and you can see so many cool places so easily from there. Just thinking of the food in Singapore is making me hungry! __________________ Port Wine & Claret \| British Cars \| Welsh Corgi's

01-29-2018, 09:44 AM	#8
massphatness Where's my buffaloooo ... Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Vin Location: MassHolia Posts: 12,690 Trading: (206)	Re: I'm migrating Opportunities out of obstacles, Ferdie -- take some time to assess, reflect and let it sink in. I know it wasn't your plan, but maybe someone else has a different plan for you. Best of luck! __________________ *Help Support The Navy SEAL Foundation: HERE*

01-29-2018, 10:13 AM	#10
icehog3 Admiral Douchebag Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Clermont, Kentucky Posts: 72,267 Trading: (60)	Re: I'm migrating Ferdie, stay positive and focus on the reason for the move....Love. Hopefully everything else will fall into place. __________________ Thanks Dave, Julian, James, Kelly, Peter, Gerry, Dave, Mo, Frank, Týr and Mr. Mark!

01-29-2018, 11:02 AM	#12
mosesbotbol That's a Corgi Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moses Location: Boston Posts: 6,171 Trading: (6)	Re: I'm migrating It's only like 12-13 hour flight from AMS to SNG... Just think it's like 20 hour flight from US... My girlfriend hated the flight when she came to visit... __________________ Port Wine & Claret \| British Cars \| Welsh Corgi's

01-29-2018, 11:37 AM	#13
Don Fernando Postwhore Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Ferdinand Location: Singapore Posts: 10,070 Trading: (29)	Re: I'm migrating "only" I prefer flying KLM over Singapore Airlines because of the departure time, SG departs 11 am, so by the time I arrive its the time my body thinks its bedtime, yet with the time difference the day there just starts (landing between 6 and 7 am). KLM departs 9 pm, so watch a movie, have dinner, pop a sleeping pill and wake up 8 hours later for breakfast, and arrival is around 4 pm. So only a few hours to kill before bedtime. __________________ check out my reviews on my blog.

01-29-2018, 01:15 PM	#15
Ashcan Bill Ol' Dude Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Bill Location: Henderson, NV Posts: 1,904 Trading: (6)	Re: I'm migrating Life's an adventure and you're off on a new one my friend. If it's a custody of a minor thing, it doesn't have to be a finite situation anyway. Who knows if you'll settle there in the long run or not. Embrace the present and remember being together is what matters.

01-29-2018, 01:49 PM	#16
mosesbotbol That's a Corgi Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moses Location: Boston Posts: 6,171 Trading: (6)	Re: I'm migrating I'd love to work in Singapore except for they really work you there! Not like working in other parts of Asia or US. __________________ Port Wine & Claret \| British Cars \| Welsh Corgi's

01-29-2018, 06:57 PM	#17
RevSmoke Ain't Never Gonna Leave Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Todd Location: Northcentral woods of Wisconsin Posts: 6,893 Trading: (51)	Re: I'm migrating Wow! I thought I replied to this thread the other day, but the post I thought I had posted is not here. Either I am losing my mind or... OK, no comments. Anyway, here is what I had said (sort of, I think I said it better the other day). When you take a vow "to love," you are not promising to have a "feeling" in your heart toward the other. "To Love" is to do for another what brings them benefit, even at the expense of, or the sacrifice of self. It is obvious that you have chosen "to love" her and her daughter, and that is exemplary. I will keep you in my prayers, as this is never easy. And, I thank you for showing us how what it means "to love" and how that sacrifice works. Peace of the Lord be with you. __________________ Todd__ "Smoke what you like, and enjoy it!"

02-09-2018, 11:10 AM	#19
IBQTEE1 Crazy K Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Kristin Location: Here and there Posts: 2,563 Trading: (6)	Re: I'm migrating Hang in there. Everything will work out in the end. __________________ It's a Good Day to Smoke a Cigar!!!