Asking for the Father's Blessing?

AlohaStyle · 01-04-2011, 01:56 PM

I agree it's the right thing for a guy to do. However, for any father who was not asked by the son-in-law, keep in mind they simply might not have known the tradition and wasn't trying to dodge the question.

I was married 7 years ago and was with my wife for almost 3 years before I proposed and had a great relationship with my future in-laws. However, somehow I never knew about the tradition until 2 weeks before I was going to propose when someone asked me if I asked for a blessing... I lived in Hawaii and my in-laws in Seattle so I got on the phone twice a day trying to get in touch with the father. Finally, the day before I was going to propose, I had to leave a voicemail in the machine saying I really wanted to talk to (the father) and tried calling for the last week or so with no luck. I then proposed and later found out that her dad was gone hunting for over a week and the mother was out of town too. So my father-in-law did not know until after the fact but the parents appreciated that I at least tried calling beforehand. And yes I realize some guys might just be losers and not knowing the tradition might not sit so well...

After I proposed, my wife also asked me how I asked for her father's blessing since we lived so far away... so yes, I think it's the right thing to do but I wouldn't necessarily hold it against the son-in-law if he doesn't know the tradition. If he doesn't ask and you feel he's just spiting you, then he's a punk ass! LOL

Tio Gato · 01-04-2011, 03:06 PM

I asked my FIL after a round of golf. I was so nervous I didn't get up the courage to ask him until after two beers in the club house. He said "You should probably try living with her first, she can be very selfish."

I'm glad I didn't take his advice, we've been married for 17 years and it's been great.

01-04-2011, 01:56 PM	#1
AlohaStyle Have My Own Room Join Date: Sep 2009 First Name: Ryan Location: WA Posts: 1,168 Trading: (40)	Re: Asking for the Father's Blessing? I agree it's the right thing for a guy to do. However, for any father who was not asked by the son-in-law, keep in mind they simply might not have known the tradition and wasn't trying to dodge the question. I was married 7 years ago and was with my wife for almost 3 years before I proposed and had a great relationship with my future in-laws. However, somehow I never knew about the tradition until 2 weeks before I was going to propose when someone asked me if I asked for a blessing... I lived in Hawaii and my in-laws in Seattle so I got on the phone twice a day trying to get in touch with the father. Finally, the day before I was going to propose, I had to leave a voicemail in the machine saying I really wanted to talk to (the father) and tried calling for the last week or so with no luck. I then proposed and later found out that her dad was gone hunting for over a week and the mother was out of town too. So my father-in-law did not know until after the fact but the parents appreciated that I at least tried calling beforehand. And yes I realize some guys might just be losers and not knowing the tradition might not sit so well... After I proposed, my wife also asked me how I asked for her father's blessing since we lived so far away... so yes, I think it's the right thing to do but I wouldn't necessarily hold it against the son-in-law if he doesn't know the tradition. If he doesn't ask and you feel he's just spiting you, then he's a punk ass! LOL

01-04-2011, 03:06 PM	#2
Tio Gato Uncle Kitty Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Jeff Location: Casa Grande, AZ Posts: 2,079 Trading: (11)	Re: Asking for the Father's Blessing? I asked my FIL after a round of golf. I was so nervous I didn't get up the courage to ask him until after two beers in the club house. He said "You should probably try living with her first, she can be very selfish." I'm glad I didn't take his advice, we've been married for 17 years and it's been great. __________________ "You stink like cigars Uncle Kitty!" Said my Boo age 3. "Kid, take care of your family and the hell with anyone else" My Grandpa Bubba.