Need your help with future wifey

[DBall]

Originally Posted by DocLogic77

I assure you this "dislike" will turn to outright hatred for cigars after you are married. It will become ammunition during fights even if smoked outside of the house. You will get "the look" everytime you pull one out. If you are already having to alter smoking habits it won't get any better with switching cigars.

This kind of thing needs to be worked out before you get hitched. I can tell you my wife rarely says a word about me smoking in the house or my purchases. But, I have a designated smoking room and I don't question her hobbies or purchases. It's a mutual "live and let live" attitude we were able to work out between us and it works for us. If you truly want to keep this habit and not have to listen to the nagging then communicate and come up with a plan now. If not you will be jumping through hoops the rest of your life and you will still have issues.

Shawn's a smart guy. The littlest snowflakes will turn into avalanches once you're married.

[DocLogic77]

Originally Posted by DBall

The littlest snowflakes will turn into avalanches once you're married.

Isn't that the truth. It's much easier to negotiate before you are married. I think where many guys get into trouble is trying to control their wives at the same time not wanting to be controlled. It takes a major issue for me to say anything remotely critical to my wife. I am not her dad. I don't tell her where she can or can't go...what she can buy...what she can or can't do...who she can talk to...or what habits she can take up. She reciprocates and gives me the freedom I need. It's a rare day for her to bust my balls and I think it's because we treat each other like trustworthy adults.