Adoption, so here is an odd topic....

Remo · 03-15-2015, 12:18 AM

Anyone else here adopted? I was adopted at birth to the best parents/family anyone could have, I have often wondered about my birth mother but have never searched for her, my brother who was also adopted was found by his birth mother some years ago, they met and had a relationship for awhile but it went South rather quickly.

Anyways I am turning 42 this year and decided to try and find my birth mother before I and she (if still alive) get any older, I just took a DNA test to see what it comes up with and I am heading to the adoption agency after I get my results and really start to search, anyone else been there, done that?

AdamJoshua · 03-15-2015, 12:38 AM

Can't say I have, but good luck, Mike, I hope you find what you're looking for!

Remo · 03-15-2015, 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by AdamJoshua

Can't say I have, but good luck, Mike, I hope you find what you're looking for!

Thanks, should be interesting.

Porch Dweller · 03-15-2015, 07:04 AM

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Originally Posted by AdamJoshua

Can't say I have, but good luck, Mike, I hope you find what you're looking for!

Good luck!

mosesbotbol · 03-15-2015, 07:26 AM

A friend of mine recently found his birth parents (via Facebook) and he was quite excited about that.

CoffeeWaterBeer · 03-15-2015, 07:30 AM

I was adopted Mike, hadn't put much thought into it for many years aside form the occasional wondering/daydreaming. I did find both of my birth parents about 9 years ago with great initial results which I would now consider "eh, half ain't bad".

I'll shoot you a PM a little later on when I have some more time to chat. I'm not sure how much help I can offer but maybe my story will give you something.

Remo · 03-15-2015, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by CoffeeWaterBeer

I was adopted Mike, hadn't put much thought into it for many years aside form the occasional wondering/daydreaming. I did find both of my birth parents about 9 years ago with great initial results which I would now consider "eh, half ain't bad".

I'll shoot you a PM a little later on when I have some more time to chat. I'm not sure how much help I can offer but maybe my story will give you something.

Got it, thanks bro

RevSmoke · 03-15-2015, 07:53 PM

God's blessings in your search. Will keep you in my prayers.

Peace of the Lord be with you.

Remo · 03-15-2015, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by RevSmoke

God's blessings in your search. Will keep you in my prayers.

Peace of the Lord be with you.

Thanks Todd.

CigarNut · 03-15-2015, 08:58 PM

Good luck!

Subvet642 · 03-15-2015, 09:34 PM

I had a somewhat different experience...I was orphaned but not adopted; I was raised by an aunt. My half-sister had two children. Her husband left her. When she would screw around with her new boyfriend, she would strap her two kids in their cribs with harnesses she got from an idiot doctor so she could leave them in the apartment alone. The authorities found out and the kids were subsequently taken by the state. In Massachusetts at the time, other family members couldn't visit until the parents did. She didn't, so we couldn't. The kids were adopted away from us and we have no idea where they are. This was around 1980. My family has nothing to do with my sister anymore. I wish they would try to find us.

icehog3 · 03-15-2015, 10:20 PM

That's horrible, Darren, would be great if they looked for you.

Mike, best of luck in your search.

Subvet642 · 03-15-2015, 11:35 PM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

That's horrible, Darren, would be great if they looked for you.

Mike, best of luck in your search.

Thanks Tom. We, at least, have the consolation that they didn't have to grow up with my abusive sister.

Good luck, Mike. Family stuff can be very weird.

CoffeeWaterBeer · 03-16-2015, 05:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Remo

I was adopted at birth to the best parents/family anyone could have

This is the most important part.

shilala · 03-16-2015, 10:21 AM

I'm excited for you, Mike.
Even if you don't really connect with her, you'll be able to find out what you're made of, good, bad, and ugly. I mean that from the health angle. You won't have to rely so much on doctors if you know what runs in your birth family.
My mom was adopted and doesn't know her birth parents. She really stressed over it.
Then she coughed my brother and I up when we were 4 and 5 and that was pretty much that. So I know what runs in her family.

I hope it ALL works out for you. You can't ever have too many people to love, brother.

Remo · 03-31-2015, 09:40 AM

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Got my DNA back, little different than I thought it would be, less Poly than I thought and more White than I thought, Asian is what I figured...found 79 people that share my DNA, closest is a 3rd cousin...search begins

shilala · 03-31-2015, 09:59 AM

Good Luck, brother!!!

Dave128 · 03-31-2015, 10:01 AM

Best of luck, Mike!

Remo · 03-31-2015, 10:05 AM

Thanks guys!

03-15-2015, 12:18 AM	#1
Remo C.I.A Join Date: Feb 2011 First Name: Mike Location: Palm Harbor, Florida Posts: 12,597 Trading: (122)	Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... Anyone else here adopted? I was adopted at birth to the best parents/family anyone could have, I have often wondered about my birth mother but have never searched for her, my brother who was also adopted was found by his birth mother some years ago, they met and had a relationship for awhile but it went South rather quickly. Anyways I am turning 42 this year and decided to try and find my birth mother before I and she (if still alive) get any older, I just took a DNA test to see what it comes up with and I am heading to the adoption agency after I get my results and really start to search, anyone else been there, done that? __________________

03-15-2015, 12:38 AM	#2
AdamJoshua Article 4 Free Inhabitant Join Date: Jan 2013 First Name: The Other Adam Location: Satellite Beach Posts: 14,786 Trading: (40)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... Can't say I have, but good luck, Mike, I hope you find what you're looking for!

03-15-2015, 07:26 AM	#5
mosesbotbol That's a Corgi Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moses Location: Boston Posts: 6,171 Trading: (6)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... A friend of mine recently found his birth parents (via Facebook) and he was quite excited about that. __________________ Port Wine & Claret \| British Cars \| Welsh Corgi's

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CoffeeWaterBeer Critiquing Perique Join Date: Sep 2012 First Name: Seth Location: Baltimore, MD Posts: 779 Trading: (13)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... I was adopted Mike, hadn't put much thought into it for many years aside form the occasional wondering/daydreaming. I did find both of my birth parents about 9 years ago with great initial results which I would now consider "eh, half ain't bad". I'll shoot you a PM a little later on when I have some more time to chat. I'm not sure how much help I can offer but maybe my story will give you something.

03-15-2015, 07:53 PM	#8
RevSmoke Ain't Never Gonna Leave Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Todd Location: Northcentral woods of Wisconsin Posts: 6,809 Trading: (51)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... God's blessings in your search. Will keep you in my prayers. Peace of the Lord be with you. __________________ Todd__ "Smoke what you like, and enjoy it!"

03-15-2015, 08:58 PM	#10
CigarNut Fck Cancer! Join Date: Jan 2009 First Name: Michael Location: Clermont, Florida Posts: 18,038 Trading: (111*)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... Good luck! __________________ Need Beads? Need Five Finger Bags? 2 of 3 Requirements for use of the CA Rolodex: 100 posts/ 60 day membership/ participation in trade (trader rating). New members can be added at any time.

03-15-2015, 09:34 PM	#11
Subvet642 Bilge Rat Join Date: Nov 2009 First Name: Darren Location: Torpedo Room Bilge Posts: 2,997 Trading: (13)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... I had a somewhat different experience...I was orphaned but not adopted; I was raised by an aunt. My half-sister had two children. Her husband left her. When she would screw around with her new boyfriend, she would strap her two kids in their cribs with harnesses she got from an idiot doctor so she could leave them in the apartment alone. The authorities found out and the kids were subsequently taken by the state. In Massachusetts at the time, other family members couldn't visit until the parents did. She didn't, so we couldn't. The kids were adopted away from us and we have no idea where they are. This was around 1980. My family has nothing to do with my sister anymore. I wish they would try to find us. __________________ *"Man's mind is his basic tool of survival. Life is given to him, survival is not." -John Galt*

03-15-2015, 10:20 PM	#12
icehog3 Admiral Douchebag Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Clermont, Kentucky Posts: 70,583 Trading: (60)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... That's horrible, Darren, would be great if they looked for you. Mike, best of luck in your search. __________________ Thanks Dave, Julian, James, Kelly, Peter, Gerry, Dave, Mo, Frank, Týr and Mr. Mark!

03-16-2015, 10:21 AM	#15
shilala Dear Lord, Thank You. Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Scott Posts: 13,721 Trading: (252)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... I'm excited for you, Mike. Even if you don't really connect with her, you'll be able to find out what you're made of, good, bad, and ugly. I mean that from the health angle. You won't have to rely so much on doctors if you know what runs in your birth family. My mom was adopted and doesn't know her birth parents. She really stressed over it. Then she coughed my brother and I up when we were 4 and 5 and that was pretty much that. So I know what runs in her family. I hope it ALL works out for you. You can't ever have too many people to love, brother. __________________

03-31-2015, 09:40 AM	#16
Remo C.I.A Join Date: Feb 2011 First Name: Mike Location: Palm Harbor, Florida Posts: 12,597 Trading: (122)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... Got my DNA back, little different than I thought it would be, less Poly than I thought and more White than I thought, Asian is what I figured...found 79 people that share my DNA, closest is a 3rd cousin...search begins __________________

03-31-2015, 09:59 AM	#17
shilala Dear Lord, Thank You. Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Scott Posts: 13,721 Trading: (252)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... Good Luck, brother!!! __________________

03-31-2015, 10:01 AM	#18
Dave128 Sexy Dave Join Date: Feb 2009 First Name: Dave Location: Voorheesville, NY Posts: 3,917 Trading: (4)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... Best of luck, Mike! __________________ "Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy." - Benjamin Franklin I "heart" Boobies and Beer!

03-31-2015, 10:05 AM	#19
Remo C.I.A Join Date: Feb 2011 First Name: Mike Location: Palm Harbor, Florida Posts: 12,597 Trading: (122)	Re: Adoption, so here is an odd topic.... Thanks guys! __________________