Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Thread

08-23-2009, 08:14 AM

We had one of these last year and it help me being a "first timer".

I'm off to drop Jr. at Penn State. Not as much anxiety as last year but it still sucks that he won't be around to shoot the chit with. He's come a long way and been through a lot since last October.

I hate today.

He will be fine, me not so much.

Zanaspus · 08-23-2009, 08:21 AM

I miss those college days. Take solace in the fact that he'll be enjoying a lot of good "blunts."

Skywalker · 08-23-2009, 08:41 AM

First day of kindergarten or going off to college, it all sucks for a good parent!!! Bitter sweet because we want them to succeed but we want them to stay with us!

Our kids know we love them but they have no idea what these milestones do to us!!!

Hang in there Al. Have a nice cigar and maybe write him a letter telling him how you feel!

BTW - I have three out of the house now, two of which are in college! My youngest starts Preschool tomorrow! Mom is all torn up over it!

BlackDog · 08-23-2009, 09:22 AM

My daughter starts her freshman year on Tuesday. I'm glad that she'll be going to a local college for her basics. She wants to go into nursing, but will do her basic courses nearby and live at home to save some money.

Smokin Gator · 08-23-2009, 09:24 AM

I feel your pain brother... I took my youngest off to college August 7. He has been good about calling every couple of days and letting me know how his soccer practices are going so that has helped... but I still miss the knot head!!!

captain53 · 08-23-2009, 09:33 AM

I so well remember moving mine into his first College House 4 years ago this month and Mom crying all the way home but that is life and it goes forward. You will not quit missing them but it will get better quickly, with cell phones it is so easy to stay in touch and know they are safe. It is also a test of how good a job you did and can make you feel very good when they succeed.

My son finished last week and just moved back home yesterday so now there is a new world to deal with as the job market is really tough for new graduates now. So there is stress on both ends starting and finishing but we will all survive. Enjoy one of your finest cigars and your best liquor relax to the memories of growing up!

08-23-2009, 09:51 PM

Well it's done. Jr is all settled in and I'm home.

I was hoping it would be easier this year.

It wasn't.

Smoked two cigars on the ride home. They helped.

alley00p · 08-23-2009, 10:08 PM

It's really tough to see them leave when they go, and it's a big adjustment for Mom and Dad! Especially after this past year, with all of the recuperating that Jr. had to go through!

But, look on the bright side, Al... a number of months ago, you were besides yourself with worries that Jr. would be injured a long time! Now, he's doing well enough to head off to college and get on with his life!

I'm sad for you and Alina, but I'm tickled to hear that Jr. is doing great!

08-23-2009, 10:08 PM

Can we get a support thread for the students too? LOL

Seriously, its hard on both ends. I hate leaving home and leaving friends and family. Its tough but you just gotta keep on truckin.

Thanks to the supportive parents out there, I know I couldn't make it without mine.

Eleven · 08-23-2009, 10:12 PM

I have had 2 move out and 1 still at home. The youngest one at home is just 10, so we have a few more years before we can truly become 'Empty Nesters'.

I got a feeling my wife will take it MUCH worse than I will

alley00p · 08-23-2009, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Skywalker

First day of kindergarten or going off to college, it all sucks for a good parent!!! Bitter sweet because we want them to succeed but we want them to stay with us!

Our kids know we love them but they have no idea what these milestones do to us!!!

Hang in there Al. Have a nice cigar and maybe write him a letter telling him how you feel!

BTW - I have three out of the house now, two of which are in college! My youngest starts Preschool tomorrow! Mom is all torn up over it!

Darrell, all of those little milestones, are the things that parents worry about the whole time the kids are growing up!

My "Baby" just started driving a few months ago, on his learner's permit. I can't believe it. This "Baby" is now 6'-4", and it kills me sometimes!

But, we've got through 3 others, somehow, so I know we'll be able to do it again!

replicant_argent · 08-23-2009, 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by ahc4353

Well it's done. Jr is all settled in and I'm home.

I was hoping it would be easier this year.

It wasn't.

Smoked two cigars on the ride home. They helped.

Not so sad at all, my friend.

Look at the relationship you have with your son and imagine some of us are envious of the relationship you have with him.

08-23-2009, 10:58 PM

I wish my Dad felt something when I left home. I walked into a hotel and from there went to a bus which took me to Lackland AFB for Basic Training. 6 months later Sept 11th erupted and I never even got a phone call.

I'm envious of the kind of father you're Al, you're all good in my book.

Ahbroody · 08-23-2009, 11:42 PM

Take pride in the fact you did it right Al. In my talks with you I know how much you love your boys and how much pride you take in what they have done and who they have become.

I am just starting down this road and can only imagine the mess I will be when this time comes.

08-24-2009, 11:42 AM

Thanks guys for all the support. Some very eye opening posts.

Thanks again!

08-24-2009, 12:03 PM

The youngest in my house will be starting kindergarten after Labor Day. I'm looking forward to him going to school (he says he wants to learn

) and making new friends, yet at the same time am a bit sad seeing my little boy growing up so fast.

GoatLocker · 08-25-2009, 12:01 AM

My little girl is off to college in September. It's gonna be strange with just me and the missus, and I'm going to miss her dearly. It's bitter sweet, as I'm so excited for her and the adventure she is about to embark on, but sad that she is leaving. It's gonna be tough to say goodbye. At least it's only 5 hours away, and at a beautiful location on the coast, so we can drop in and say 'hi' between breaks.

cbsmokin · 08-26-2009, 11:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zanaspus

I miss those college days. Take solace in the fact that he'll be enjoying a lot of good "blunts."

WTF?

Zanaspus · 08-27-2009, 08:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zanaspus

I miss those college days. Take solace in the fact that he'll be enjoying a lot of good "blunts."

To the mods: Can we just delete this comment made by this idiot? He assures me it was made in a less than lucid moment.

08-27-2009, 08:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zanaspus

To the mods: Can we just delete this comment made by this idiot? He assures me it was made in a less than lucid moment.

I received a very nice PM from this guy this morning. He's far from an idiot, actually, based on that PM he's a stand up guy in my book.

I think I might have made one or two posts I wish I could of had back in my time here.

08-23-2009, 08:14 AM	#1
ahc4353 Guest Posts: n/a	Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Thread We had one of these last year and it help me being a "first timer". I'm off to drop Jr. at Penn State. Not as much anxiety as last year but it still sucks that he won't be around to shoot the chit with. He's come a long way and been through a lot since last October. I hate today. He will be fine, me not so much.

08-23-2009, 08:21 AM	#2
Zanaspus Adjusting to the Life Join Date: Aug 2009 First Name: Tony Location: Columbus, OH Posts: 492 Trading: (3)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th I miss those college days. Take solace in the fact that he'll be enjoying a lot of good "blunts."

08-23-2009, 08:41 AM	#3
Skywalker BABOTL Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Dice Location: Galaxy Far Far Away Posts: 10,168 Trading: (18)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th First day of kindergarten or going off to college, it all sucks for a good parent!!! Bitter sweet because we want them to succeed but we want them to stay with us! Our kids know we love them but they have no idea what these milestones do to us!!! Hang in there Al. Have a nice cigar and maybe write him a letter telling him how you feel! BTW - I have three out of the house now, two of which are in college! My youngest starts Preschool tomorrow! Mom is all torn up over it! __________________ Smoke what you like!!!

08-23-2009, 09:22 AM	#4
BlackDog Gonna make you groove... Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Warren Location: Minneapolis, MN Posts: 2,468 Trading: (19)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th My daughter starts her freshman year on Tuesday. I'm glad that she'll be going to a local college for her basics. She wants to go into nursing, but will do her basic courses nearby and live at home to save some money. __________________ "We live in the good of this."

08-23-2009, 09:24 AM	#5
Smokin Gator Just plain insane! Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: The Swamp Posts: 6,237 Trading: (106)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th I feel your pain brother... I took my youngest off to college August 7. He has been good about calling every couple of days and letting me know how his soccer practices are going so that has helped... but I still miss the knot head!!! __________________ Check out the Cigar Asylum Newbie Sampler Trade

08-23-2009, 09:33 AM	#6
captain53 Have My Own Room Join Date: Jul 2009 First Name: Dave Location: Lake of the Ozarks & Austin, TX Posts: 1,333 Trading: (3)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th I so well remember moving mine into his first College House 4 years ago this month and Mom crying all the way home but that is life and it goes forward. You will not quit missing them but it will get better quickly, with cell phones it is so easy to stay in touch and know they are safe. It is also a test of how good a job you did and can make you feel very good when they succeed. My son finished last week and just moved back home yesterday so now there is a new world to deal with as the job market is really tough for new graduates now. So there is stress on both ends starting and finishing but we will all survive. Enjoy one of your finest cigars and your best liquor relax to the memories of growing up!

08-23-2009, 09:51 PM	#7
ahc4353 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th Well it's done. Jr is all settled in and I'm home. I was hoping it would be easier this year. It wasn't. Smoked two cigars on the ride home. They helped.

08-23-2009, 10:08 PM	#8
alley00p Adopted MassHole Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Charlie Location: HOCKEYTOWN! Posts: 1,770 Trading: (41)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th It's really tough to see them leave when they go, and it's a big adjustment for Mom and Dad! Especially after this past year, with all of the recuperating that Jr. had to go through! But, look on the bright side, Al... a number of months ago, you were besides yourself with worries that Jr. would be injured a long time! Now, he's doing well enough to head off to college and get on with his life! I'm sad for you and Alina, but I'm tickled to hear that Jr. is doing great! __________________ Alley00p - I may be a FOG, but I'm still trying to dance!! Just don't trip over my cane!

08-23-2009, 10:08 PM	#9
GHC_Hambone Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th Can we get a support thread for the students too? LOL Seriously, its hard on both ends. I hate leaving home and leaving friends and family. Its tough but you just gotta keep on truckin. Thanks to the supportive parents out there, I know I couldn't make it without mine.

08-23-2009, 10:12 PM	#10
Eleven Solid As The Sun Join Date: Aug 2009 First Name: Scott Location: SW Ohio Posts: 1,859 Trading: (23)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th I have had 2 move out and 1 still at home. The youngest one at home is just 10, so we have a few more years before we can truly become 'Empty Nesters'. I got a feeling my wife will take it MUCH worse than I will __________________ CA: putting the 'man' in bromance since 2008! --markem.

08-23-2009, 10:58 PM	#13
Darrell Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th I wish my Dad felt something when I left home. I walked into a hotel and from there went to a bus which took me to Lackland AFB for Basic Training. 6 months later Sept 11th erupted and I never even got a phone call. I'm envious of the kind of father you're Al, you're all good in my book.

08-23-2009, 11:42 PM	#14
Ahbroody Daddy x 4 Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Mike Location: San Jose Posts: 3,708 Trading: (53)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th Take pride in the fact you did it right Al. In my talks with you I know how much you love your boys and how much pride you take in what they have done and who they have become. I am just starting down this road and can only imagine the mess I will be when this time comes.

08-24-2009, 11:42 AM	#15
ahc4353 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th Thanks guys for all the support. Some very eye opening posts. Thanks again!

08-24-2009, 12:03 PM	#16
Wanger Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th The youngest in my house will be starting kindergarten after Labor Day. I'm looking forward to him going to school (he says he wants to learn ) and making new friends, yet at the same time am a bit sad seeing my little boy growing up so fast.

08-25-2009, 12:01 AM	#17
GoatLocker Dr of Quantum Inebrionics Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Eric Location: Sandy Eggo Posts: 434 Trading: (1)	Re: Leaving your Son/Daughter - College Support Th My little girl is off to college in September. It's gonna be strange with just me and the missus, and I'm going to miss her dearly. It's bitter sweet, as I'm so excited for her and the adventure she is about to embark on, but sad that she is leaving. It's gonna be tough to say goodbye. At least it's only 5 hours away, and at a beautiful location on the coast, so we can drop in and say 'hi' between breaks. __________________ "I drink a great deal. I sleep a little, and I smoke cigar after cigar. That is why I am in two-hundred-percent form." Winston Churchill