Crushed. - Page 4

Blueface · 07-08-2010, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Big_Ern

if you want to see true happiness, look into a smiling child's eyes

I have been hit with a recent spell of what I get once in a while relative to down in the gutter feelings.
You have no idea how true the above statement is.
The only thing that makes me smile right now is looking into my grandson's eyes and seeing that happiness he has every time he sees me.

nofeardiver · 07-08-2010, 09:15 AM

It has been said here many of times, but time is the only thing that will help. I dated one girl through out high school, and right after we graduated she broke it off, i was crushed for months, maybe even years i would think of her, and just be sad for days... Heres my advice, dont dwell on it, and dude your going to be in college it sounds like dont settle unless you just think that one girl is the right one. Have fun and enjoy college. Another thing, is that you can look at her as a steping stone to the next girl or even wife. I know that i know how to treat my wife better because of that relationship i went through. Either way bro, good luck, i live in lakeland about 45 minutes from tampa, we she hit a cigar b&m down there sometime... either way good luck again...

Gophernut · 07-08-2010, 10:40 AM

Positive thoughts being sent your way! I think quite a few of us have been there done that with this sort of thing. My first wife told me she wanted a divorce on Christmas Eve on the way home from my Dad's house. Found the love of life a couple years later, and we've been married for 15 years, have a great son of 14years, and I was able to help be a big part of her daughters life who will be bringing a grand-daughter into our lives in November.
Yes it can and does suck right now, but it sounds like your landing on your feet! Keep your chin up and let us help if we can.

Wolfgang · 07-08-2010, 12:15 PM

Just got back from my first date as a bachelor. It went well, we laughed and reminisced about the good ole days then walked around and all in all was a fun time. We even have a second date planned later this weekend. she is a very cute girl and Im going to have a lot of fun

The song by reel big Fish "All I want is more" pretty much sums up how im feeling at the moment. should Lindsey realize how awesome I am great but for now Im living my life.

Pass · 07-08-2010, 12:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wolfgang

Just got back from my first date as a bachelor. It went well, we laughed and reminisced about the good ole days then walked around and all in all was a fun time. We even have a second date planned later this weekend. she is a very cute girl and Im going to have a lot of fun

The song by reel big Fish "All I want is more" pretty much sums up how im feeling at the moment. should Lindsey realize how awesome I am great but for now Im living my life.

Rules, man, rules! As a reminder, when a female is discussed it must be accompanied by pics of said female.

...So basically, pictures or it didn't happen.

Wolfgang · 07-08-2010, 12:35 PM

Pass · 07-08-2010, 12:41 PM

Cute! This the new one or the one in the rear view?

replicant_argent · 07-08-2010, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Wolfgang

should Lindsey realize how awesome I am great but for now Im living my life.

You need to change that outlook.
She's history, Mark. Move on, no looking back, no reminiscing, no puppy dog BS, move forward and to how wonderful the person you seek is, not dwelling on the rear view mirror.

Of course, I'm an asshole, what do I know?

Sauer Grapes · 07-08-2010, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by replicant_argent

You need to change that outlook.
She's history, Mark. Move on, no looking back, no reminiscing, no puppy dog BS, move forward and to how wonderful the person you seek is, not dwelling on the rear view mirror.

Of course, I'm an asshole, what do I know?

Exactly. Also, if we learned anything from Swingers, she won't come back until you've already moved on, and then it won't matter that she came back because you've moved on.

Wolfgang · 07-08-2010, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Pass

Cute! This the new one or the one in the rear view?

new

Quote:

Originally Posted by replicant_argent

You need to change that outlook.
She's history, Mark. Move on, no looking back, no reminiscing, no puppy dog BS, move forward and to how wonderful the person you seek is, not dwelling on the rear view mirror.

Of course, I'm an asshole, what do I know?

Yes Pete you are an asshole, however, you have yet to steer me wrong. thanks buddy!

Chingas · 07-08-2010, 03:12 PM

Go get her brother...she looks good.

shark · 07-09-2010, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Wolfgang

Actually that took less time than I thought, I have three dates lined up this week haha. The funny part is they all come to me. you guys are spot on.

One things for sure, Im not diving in untill I know how deep the water is.

Just tell yourself "To hell with her." If you run into her somewhere just play it cool, act like you don't even know her. Then again, I'm kind of a dick, so...

shark · 07-09-2010, 11:32 AM

And another thing...just be glad that you and her weren't married.

bsmokin · 07-09-2010, 12:34 PM

I'm amazed at some of the great advice here... but figure I'd put in my two cents.

I know from experience that the good times in life can only feel so good when you've fought through the tough times as you are now. I know this is not much of a help in the short term, but hopefully it at least helps keep some perspective. When you do find the right girl, you'll be a more happy and better man for it.

In the short term... rebound. Crash the boards, so to speak. Go out, get out, and have fun. Make the best of it. You're single now... you can now do all the things you couldn't have the last three years. This is a _good_ thing!!! Live it up brother. Life is too short.

Wolfgang · 07-09-2010, 12:56 PM

Absolutly B, I have gotten back in touch with old friends and now even have time to listen to music again (not that lady gaga sh!t that was played incessantly.) Ive even gone out to bars and drank with complete strangers and had the best time. Plus this new pretty thing that im having fun with.

Chingas · 07-09-2010, 01:10 PM

Good work brother. Glad you're back to reality. Always a bright side...

Wolfgang · 07-09-2010, 01:13 PM

Hell yes! Thank you everyone for ***** slapping me back to the real world.

Virginia_Ghost · 07-09-2010, 02:12 PM

See how quick that was? Remember...You. Can. Be. Replaced.

Wolfgang · 07-09-2010, 02:19 PM

I dunno, I'M one of a kind!

awsmith4 · 07-09-2010, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Wolfgang

I dunno, I'M one of a kind!

That is something I will never argue with

07-08-2010, 09:15 AM	#62
nofeardiver Feeling at Home Join Date: Aug 2009 First Name: Dan Location: Florida Posts: 561 Trading: (4)	Re: Crushed. It has been said here many of times, but time is the only thing that will help. I dated one girl through out high school, and right after we graduated she broke it off, i was crushed for months, maybe even years i would think of her, and just be sad for days... Heres my advice, dont dwell on it, and dude your going to be in college it sounds like dont settle unless you just think that one girl is the right one. Have fun and enjoy college. Another thing, is that you can look at her as a steping stone to the next girl or even wife. I know that i know how to treat my wife better because of that relationship i went through. Either way bro, good luck, i live in lakeland about 45 minutes from tampa, we she hit a cigar b&m down there sometime... either way good luck again...

07-08-2010, 10:40 AM	#63
Gophernut Have My Own Room Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Steve Location: Hudson, WI Posts: 1,661 Trading: (15)	Re: Crushed. Positive thoughts being sent your way! I think quite a few of us have been there done that with this sort of thing. My first wife told me she wanted a divorce on Christmas Eve on the way home from my Dad's house. Found the love of life a couple years later, and we've been married for 15 years, have a great son of 14years, and I was able to help be a big part of her daughters life who will be bringing a grand-daughter into our lives in November. Yes it can and does suck right now, but it sounds like your landing on your feet! Keep your chin up and let us help if we can.

07-08-2010, 12:15 PM	#64
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. Just got back from my first date as a bachelor. It went well, we laughed and reminisced about the good ole days then walked around and all in all was a fun time. We even have a second date planned later this weekend. she is a very cute girl and Im going to have a lot of fun The song by reel big Fish "All I want is more" pretty much sums up how im feeling at the moment. should Lindsey realize how awesome I am great but for now Im living my life. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-08-2010, 12:35 PM	#66
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-08-2010, 12:41 PM	#67
Pass Puff, Puff... Join Date: Jun 2010 First Name: Max Location: Fredericksburg, VA Posts: 459 Trading: (8)	Re: Crushed. Cute! This the new one or the one in the rear view? __________________ Live Free. Ride Hard. Smoke Up! Regnat Populus.

07-08-2010, 03:12 PM	#71
Chingas Death Is Waiting Join Date: Jun 2010 First Name: Chingas Location: Slayerville, Jersey Posts: 5,295 Trading: (35)	Re: Crushed. Go get her brother...she looks good. __________________ ---Chingas--- ---Team Death Bomb Squad: Captain---

07-09-2010, 11:32 AM	#73
shark Cigar Smokin' Patriot Join Date: Sep 2009 First Name: Ron Location: Michigan Posts: 3,444 Trading: (0)	Re: Crushed. And another thing...just be glad that you and her weren't married. __________________ Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery None but ourselves can free our minds

07-09-2010, 12:34 PM	#74
bsmokin Slippin... Fast. Join Date: Sep 2009 First Name: Bryan Location: South Jersey Posts: 616 Trading: (15)	Re: Crushed. I'm amazed at some of the great advice here... but figure I'd put in my two cents. I know from experience that the good times in life can only feel so good when you've fought through the tough times as you are now. I know this is not much of a help in the short term, but hopefully it at least helps keep some perspective. When you do find the right girl, you'll be a more happy and better man for it. In the short term... rebound. Crash the boards, so to speak. Go out, get out, and have fun. Make the best of it. You're single now... you can now do all the things you couldn't have the last three years. This is a _good_ thing!!! Live it up brother. Life is too short.

07-09-2010, 12:56 PM	#75
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. Absolutly B, I have gotten back in touch with old friends and now even have time to listen to music again (not that lady gaga sh!t that was played incessantly.) Ive even gone out to bars and drank with complete strangers and had the best time. Plus this new pretty thing that im having fun with. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-09-2010, 01:10 PM	#76
Chingas Death Is Waiting Join Date: Jun 2010 First Name: Chingas Location: Slayerville, Jersey Posts: 5,295 Trading: (35)	Re: Crushed. Good work brother. Glad you're back to reality. Always a bright side... __________________ ---Chingas--- ---Team Death Bomb Squad: Captain---

07-09-2010, 01:13 PM	#77
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. Hell yes! Thank you everyone for ***** slapping me back to the real world. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-09-2010, 02:12 PM	#78
Virginia_Ghost Rookie, at best. Join Date: Jun 2010 First Name: Bo Location: Yorktown, VA Posts: 320 Trading: (6)	Re: Crushed. See how quick that was? Remember...You. Can. Be. Replaced. __________________ Will the machines just take over already? I'm tired of doing stuff.

07-09-2010, 02:19 PM	#79
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. I dunno, I'M one of a kind! __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.