They just don't make brains like they use to - Page 2

croatan · 05-28-2010, 08:32 AM

I already support my parents; really not looking forward to kids, too.

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Carlos, have you done the four generations smoking pic yet?

Blueface · 05-28-2010, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by croatan

Carlos, have you done the four generations smoking pic yet?

Not the way I feel right now. Not sure if I want them all in the same room at the same time.

Actually, with my son's travel schedule, it has been tough to hook everybody up in one room long enough.

Blueface · 05-28-2010, 08:49 AM

Reading all your stories shows we are all in a very similar boat.

I thought getting them to 18 was the hard part.
While tough indeed, it is after 18 to mid to late 20's that seems to suck as much, in a totally different way.

I am trying so hard to remember if I was the same way.
It just seems the word gratitude is non existent and one would think at that age, the person is no longer a child and should reason like an adult.

Tony,
In your case, you have a tough one in that the car is in your name and hence you need to keep the insurance on it.
Make sure you notify your carrier of the new garaging of the car so no issues down the line should she have a loss up there.

newcigarz · 05-28-2010, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Blueface

Tony,
In your case, you have a tough one in that the car is in your name and hence you need to keep the insurance on it.
Make sure you notify your carrier of the new garaging of the car so no issues down the line should she have a loss up there.

Thanks for the heads up.

05-28-2010, 10:26 AM

The title of this thread is misleading. The problem is that parents brains are made the same and that leads us into these situations with our kids. You have to have some hard boundaries with soft edges.
It's always been this way.

Blueface · 05-28-2010, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by BC-Axeman

The title of this thread is misleading. The problem is that parents brains are made the same and that leads us into these situations with our kids. You have to have some hard boundaries with soft edges.
It's always been this way.

Unfortunately, regardless of how hard you set those boundaries, they are always compromised.

In this case, I reacted due to what I saw when I grew up.
I recall my dad pawning his jewelry to get me much needed medical care when I was young.

I fell for the call from the wife and my mom that told me how terrible of a condition she was in.

Took her to the Dr. and watched her be miserable the whole way there.

Like my dad, having learned from him, nothing will ever stop me from making sure a family member gets necessary medical treatment.

The last thing I expected was a fun time at a ball game post all that.

However, I too learn. You an only cry wolf so many times and she has run out of them.

markem · 05-28-2010, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Blueface

The last thing I expected was a fun time at a ball game post all that.

Apparently, nothing heals like a little TLC from Dad.

BlackDog · 05-28-2010, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by markem

Apparently, nothing heals like a little TLC from Dad.

Daddy kissed it and made the boo-boo all better.

markem · 05-28-2010, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by BlackDog

Daddy kissed it and made the boo-boo all better.

Hey Carlos, my butt hurts

BlackDog · 05-28-2010, 10:28 AM

I've got a 21 year old daughter who can be a bit of a Drama Queen. You may be sick, but she is dying. You may have a bad day, but hers is the worst in the history of mankind. Makes me crazy sometimes.

We're in the process currently of "cutting" our financial relationship with her. Not in a bad way, but it's time for her to become independent. We've taught her how to be financially responsible, but it won't really hit home until she has to make real-life decisions. Her current decisions of "Do I go to a movie with my friends, or buy a new blouse?" aren't really moving the ball forward.

Good luck Carlos!

05-28-2010, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by BlackDog

I've got a 21 year old daughter who can be a bit of a Drama Queen. You may be sick, but she is dying. You may have a bad day, but hers is the worst in the history of mankind. Makes me crazy sometimes.

We're in the process currently of "cutting" our financial relationship with her. Not in a bad way, but it's time for her to become independent. We've taught her how to be financially responsible, but it won't really hit home until she has to make real-life decisions. Her current decisions of "Do I go to a movie with my friends, or buy a new blouse?" aren't really moving the ball forward.

Good luck Carlos!

lol

Have I got stories!
Gotta teach those birds to fly...

shilala · 05-28-2010, 10:48 AM

Carlos, just keep thinking "Grandchildren". Full circle tends to come full circle.

Talk to the kid, calmly. Explain what happened to you because of her "crisis".
It's not like she's going to understand, but she'll understand the next time she sticks her hand out and you explain you haven't finished paying off the ass pounding she gave you last time.
Plus you want to take Mom to the ball game, and it's your last $500 bucks.

Don Fernando · 05-28-2010, 10:53 AM

so Carlos, if I understand correctly she makes you pay the bills, and then spend her own money on fun stuff? Sounds to me that the new brain is smarter than the old one

Blueface · 05-28-2010, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Don Fernando

so Carlos, if I understand correctly she makes you pay the bills, and then spend her own money on fun stuff? Sounds to me that the new brain is smarter than the old one

shilala · 05-28-2010, 01:09 PM

I think Don mighta got ya there, brother.

bigpedunn · 05-29-2010, 06:19 AM

Gave my youngest son ( 22 ) some cash for rent , he still is in school and he spends it on a new tatoo!!!!!!! I feel your pain.

Skywalker · 05-29-2010, 07:04 AM

I feel your pain Carlos!!!

I'm "helping" my daughter and her fiancé pay for their wedding next May. I've shelled out half the money so far, and I'm having to cut back on my spending to pay for the other half.

Two weeks ago - both my daughter and her fiancé think it would be fun to get tattoos. Her tat was $500 and his was $1000. WTF???

Get this, the tats have nothing to do with their relationship or love for one another!!! They're just fun!!!

F my life!!!

Apoco · 05-29-2010, 07:15 AM

And this is why having a child that plays World of Warcraft all day is awesome. At least that's what my parents told me

She'll grow up. I know I certainly have.

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Originally Posted by Blueface

I guess I did dumb stuff in my early 20's that I have just forced myself to forget.

One thing I have definitely learned, if you ever find yourself thinking "you know, I haven't ever been much of a (drama king/queen, total moron, etc.)"...just ask your parents. They'll be happy to tell you allllllll about it

kelmac07 · 05-29-2010, 12:13 PM

Kids...gotta love 'em (no matter what).

05-28-2010, 08:32 AM	#1
croatan Missing Peter Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: James Location: la Vuelta Abajo Posts: 3,727 Trading: (6)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to I already support my parents; really not looking forward to kids, too. -- Carlos, have you done the four generations smoking pic yet? __________________ Fumo ergo sum.

05-28-2010, 08:49 AM	#3
Blueface Gramps 4x's Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Horatio Seymore Hiny Location: Boca Raton - North of La Habana Posts: 8,774 Trading: (8)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to Reading all your stories shows we are all in a very similar boat. I thought getting them to 18 was the hard part. While tough indeed, it is after 18 to mid to late 20's that seems to suck as much, in a totally different way. I am trying so hard to remember if I was the same way. It just seems the word gratitude is non existent and one would think at that age, the person is no longer a child and should reason like an adult. Tony, In your case, you have a tough one in that the car is in your name and hence you need to keep the insurance on it. Make sure you notify your carrier of the new garaging of the car so no issues down the line should she have a loss up there. __________________ Little known fact: I am a former member of the Village People - The Indian

05-28-2010, 10:26 AM	#5
BC-Axeman Guest Posts: n/a	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to The title of this thread is misleading. The problem is that parents brains are made the same and that leads us into these situations with our kids. You have to have some hard boundaries with soft edges. It's always been this way.

05-28-2010, 10:28 AM	#10
BlackDog Gonna make you groove... Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Warren Location: Minneapolis, MN Posts: 2,468 Trading: (19)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to I've got a 21 year old daughter who can be a bit of a Drama Queen. You may be sick, but she is dying. You may have a bad day, but hers is the worst in the history of mankind. Makes me crazy sometimes. We're in the process currently of "cutting" our financial relationship with her. Not in a bad way, but it's time for her to become independent. We've taught her how to be financially responsible, but it won't really hit home until she has to make real-life decisions. Her current decisions of "Do I go to a movie with my friends, or buy a new blouse?" aren't really moving the ball forward. Good luck Carlos! __________________ "We live in the good of this."

05-28-2010, 10:48 AM	#12
shilala Dear Lord, Thank You. Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Scott Posts: 13,721 Trading: (252)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to Carlos, just keep thinking "Grandchildren". Full circle tends to come full circle. Talk to the kid, calmly. Explain what happened to you because of her "crisis". It's not like she's going to understand, but she'll understand the next time she sticks her hand out and you explain you haven't finished paying off the ass pounding she gave you last time. Plus you want to take Mom to the ball game, and it's your last $500 bucks. __________________

05-28-2010, 10:53 AM	#13
Don Fernando Postwhore Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Ferdinand Location: Singapore Posts: 10,070 Trading: (29)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to so Carlos, if I understand correctly she makes you pay the bills, and then spend her own money on fun stuff? Sounds to me that the new brain is smarter than the old one __________________ check out my reviews on my blog.

05-28-2010, 01:09 PM	#15
shilala Dear Lord, Thank You. Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Scott Posts: 13,721 Trading: (252)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to I think Don mighta got ya there, brother. __________________

05-29-2010, 06:19 AM	#16
bigpedunn Still Watching My Back Join Date: Jan 2010 First Name: Patrick Location: Brownville Nebraska Posts: 233 Trading: (0)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to Gave my youngest son ( 22 ) some cash for rent , he still is in school and he spends it on a new tatoo!!!!!!! I feel your pain.

05-29-2010, 07:04 AM	#17
Skywalker BABOTL Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Dice Location: Galaxy Far Far Away Posts: 10,168 Trading: (18)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to I feel your pain Carlos!!! I'm "helping" my daughter and her fiancé pay for their wedding next May. I've shelled out half the money so far, and I'm having to cut back on my spending to pay for the other half. Two weeks ago - both my daughter and her fiancé think it would be fun to get tattoos. Her tat was $500 and his was $1000. WTF??? Get this, the tats have nothing to do with their relationship or love for one another!!! They're just fun!!! F my life!!! __________________ Smoke what you like!!!

05-29-2010, 12:13 PM	#19
kelmac07 Resident Maduro Whore!! Join Date: Apr 2009 First Name: Mac Location: Newport News, VA Posts: 27,322 Trading: (218)	Re: They just don't make brains like they use to Kids...gotta love 'em (no matter what). __________________ Dom in the MLB thread "I could probably get you to wear a Yankee hat for a Maduro!"