Adoptions

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Originally Posted by CoreyD

Wow I just now seen this, I see this at times in my field of work and being in recovery myself for 9 years on all sides of the fence just not first hand thank god. There has been great feedback and I agree its a sticky situation that has many doors and things behind them as well as questions on how the kid from womb may experience his/her life growing up. Not in any way will my post give advice or counsel but I can say this..

1. I pray that the lord opens your eyes and hands to allow you to see and work in the way he wants you to in that child's life as a caregiver and protector and loved one,and that he watches over that said child .

2. any visitation with biological mother if passes a drug screen continually and home visit from a health and human services child protection case worker,should have a court appointed health and human services child protection case worker watch over that said visit in a public place or your home or somewhere that is safe for both the child and case worker for at least a year or more before review.

Any questions why i threw these 2 things up just ask. but I have seen people turn their life around and have seen the child benefit elsewhere and seen it mess up child as well. Honesty,truth and communication and love is best. As the kid gets older if he/she was taught to communicate to you how he/she feels, professional counseling or a youth pastor wouldn't hurt for the child to work on these emotions and stuff.-Corey

Excellent response Corey and it is appreciated, Fortuantely Biomom has been clean for 1.5 yrs but I think that is only because she has mandated drug screens...but I know she still hits the bottle. That being said I do hope she cleans up her life but as of now we blocked all contact. AS many here have said. It is all about the boy!

[Partagaspete]

I haven't really been an active member lately but I thought an update was in order.

Bio mom got arrested for violating probi. I think she had drugs in system. SD is in Georgia thought he is ther illegally as he is still a probi but I will not dime him out as that is not how I roll. I want them to succed. Supposedly he is htere getting clean with family and when Biomom gets out she plans to join him and try to keep clean. I doubt it will work out but I am the consumate optimist with cynical tendancies...We finalized the adoption and he is the cutest kid around and soooo well adjusted.

Christ he is old enough to be my grandson. I hope I do him justice as a dad. He still has some episodes with previous history but it will take a few years to get ppast that and we are aware. I alos think the BN ans SD are coming to grips with the fact that he is now our son and not thiers. Not that SD really cares except for the fact that BM does care.

Sorry if this is disjointed but just it just came out as it did and that is all. Thanks for reading.

T