Take a look at this guy's site. I'm having some work done by him right now. He does complete restorations quite reasonably.
http://www.walkerpiperepair.com/
I've been using paper matches because I figure they burn cooler and it's easier to pull a flame straight down into the bowl from a match than from a lighter that shoots a flame, even if it's a soft one. Also, the mechanics of paper matches is just more instinctive than wood.