Hard to hear, and hopefully it does help a little just to get it off your chest. Know we are all rooting for you around here.
Something smaller to focus on and make progress, try a budget. You can find some forms and basic info here
https://www.daveramsey.com/budgeting/useful-forms
They talk about regular (salary) and irregular incomes (commission) there so give it a shot. If you get stuck or have questions, ask. There are a lot of smart people around here that are willing to help.