Not sure what your budget is, but Fredric Malle is "Cohiba", "Ferrari", "insert your finest moniker..." scents on the market. Most are not male-female scents. Very high quality and you'll notice the difference very easily compared to the regular department store brands.
Elys and I have 6-7 different bottles. Barneys is the only US distributor (outside of their own website). I like to pick some a bottle or two when I visit Zurich as there's a famous perfume shop on the main strip.
I met Fredric Malle in Boston a few years ago and got a hand signed bottle...
http://www.barneys.com
http://www.fredericmalle.com/
If you have any questions, let me know.