Wow, that's a tough one Jay. I know with our kids the first three months were the toughest on my wife and I, then got quite a bit easier. So if you said you would deploy in January or later I'd definitely say go sooner.
But honestly, I think I'd still say to go sooner. Kids are a ton of fun all the years they're growing up (most days anyway
) but being with them when their minds are developing and when they need positive adult influence when toddlers is important, IMHO.
Either way, make the decision with your wife as it's a family decision first and foremost.
Thank you sooooo much for all of the sacrifices you and all of your fellow service men and women do for our country.
You'll be in my prayers asking to help guide you and your wife with your decision.