Thanks for everything. I asked my stepdaughter to do a gender check, and yep, it's still a girl.
It seems like my stepdaughter is also pretty much over the dude too. I feel there will be some ramifications down the road but overall I feel she is a lot better off without him.
Oh, and just to show how much of a loser he is, he has no real job, no car (he wrecked his truck last summer and never had any money to get another), and lives with some friends on their couch I believe. I have no real address for him but I do know he's in the National Guard.