I lost patience reading all the posts, so if this is redundant, please forgive this old codger....
Good red wines that are quite inexpensive can be found from Washington State. Try some of the Columbia Crest or Hogue wines. I'm particularly fond of the Columbia Crest Merlot/Cab blend (Merlot, Cabernet Franc & Cabernet Sauvignon), & Shiraz. The C.C. Cabernet Sauvignon by itself is kind of weak. Also, try some of the Alexander Valley (California) Pinot Noirs. Castle Rock is very good & can be had for about $12/bottle.