Calexan

First, Ive never been married so no first hand experience with the emotions your going through....

But, as a law clerk (hopefully soon to be attorney), I see divorces walk in the door everyday. It really is painful to see people when they first come in, because they really are struggling with the thought of divorce. (atleast the ones who dont bring the original action). As a non married male, this really makes me hesitant to want to jump into marriage. But after everything is said and done it is great to see how happy those clients are. Yes they have to deal with custody and alimony, but overall they end up happy.

Yea i think people should try everything the can to stay together, but if that doesnt work, divorce gives you a great chance at a new start and a better chance of being happy for life. We only live once, so someone who is unhappy or with someone who is unhappy them, they shouldnt have to suffer. Its hard to say goodbye to a long term relationship, but look at it as a fresh start.

Keep your head up and remember the good things that came from it. Whether it be the kids or just the great moments. Learn from the mistakes and carry that into your next relationship. The mistakes might not be obvious, but there are always mistakes in all previous relationships we can learn from. Just cause a court calls it a "no-fault" divorce, theres always something that gave rise to the want for separation. Its not a bad thing though!! Just learn from it.

My biggest point is to just learn from your previous relationships and try to move on. That is the worse thing i have seen. People who separate and get back together over and over. We had one prospective client come in and wanted a divorce from their partner for the 8th time!!!!! Seriously??? If it didnt work out the first 7 times why is the 8th going to be any different? Atleast the paperwork would have been easy to file, youd have 7 different previous versions of a decree to go off of.

Enjoy being single!! Go out and reconnect and have fun with your friends, if the marriage has lessened those relationships at all. Friends are great support and they possibly know you better than your ex did. And most importantly, dont go out looking for love, let it come to you.