I have been researching this further and see that here are tons of VPN firewalls that even though are for business might work for my situation. Can't do sonic wall, because of the cost of subscriptions. I would need to be able to use it with two laptops and two iphones when outside my home network. I see that there are netgear like this with or without wireless:
http://www.ebay.com/itm/Netgear-ProS...item3a978928c5
Cisco has some too. Would it be possible to use one of these wired Netgear routers for the router and VPB and then just use my ubiquiti AP for wireless? How hard would it be to set up something like this with my limited knowledge? I could probably figure it out as long as it doesn't require command line programming. Anyone have any experience with this?