I'm going to suggest something in a little different direction: Ford Edge. Don't sell it short without looking at it.
My daughter bought a used 2007 fully loaded for about 15K. It meets or exceeds every spec you listed. For your 45K you could get a whole lot of car if not new. From it's handling to the amenities it's just a gorgeous ride.
As I said hers is fully loaded: full vista moon roof, heated leather seats, in dash nav system dual climate controls, AWD (you get rear wheel until sensors kick in the AWD), sound system, head and knee room (I'm 6-4), memory seats - the list is long. Either just over or under 300hp depending on model, responsive handling and great pickup. Her mileage in city is about 22 mpg - she also has a heavy foot. Curb weight: 4050.
On corners it thinks it's a sports car - on rough roads it thinks it's a caddy - it didn't even break a sweat on the ice and little snow we had this past winter.
It's got a nice wide stance, sits 5 adults no problem and everyone just loves the looks. Drivers seating: higher than a car, lower than an SUV/Truck. When my wife gets ready to replace her Crown Vic - its our next car.
Being American made - repairs should be lower than foreign numbers. Anyway - give it a look, compare and see.
Ron
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