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SteveH · 03-26-2011, 07:59 AM

Hey man...
First off, I applaud you as a person for stepping up where others cannot ! Secondly - hello from another DE member !
That said - friends of mine went through basically the same exact situation; only this child was about 3 years old. You really really need to be careful about what you say, and how you say it - regardless of how true it really is. These people are scumbags; and will do anything to use something to their advantage.
Beyond that - listen to the lawyers and heed their advice. Also, as time goes on it might not be a bad idea to consult a mental health professional. My friends have, and the doctor is providing excellent insight.
What I can glean off of their experience though is this - the child is well aware of her situation, and why it is the way that it is (surely not in every explicit detail). There are no visitations - and right now she is doing very well and has no desire to meet her biological family. IF that day arises, my friends have been very clear with her that they will all sit down as a family and discuss. So far, so good.

03-26-2011, 07:59 AM	#3
SteveH You lookin at me ? Join Date: Mar 2011 First Name: Steve Location: Wilmington, DE Posts: 336 Trading: (4)	Re: Adoptions Hey man... First off, I applaud you as a person for stepping up where others cannot ! Secondly - hello from another DE member ! That said - friends of mine went through basically the same exact situation; only this child was about 3 years old. You really really need to be careful about what you say, and how you say it - regardless of how true it really is. These people are scumbags; and will do anything to use something to their advantage. Beyond that - listen to the lawyers and heed their advice. Also, as time goes on it might not be a bad idea to consult a mental health professional. My friends have, and the doctor is providing excellent insight. What I can glean off of their experience though is this - the child is well aware of her situation, and why it is the way that it is (surely not in every explicit detail). There are no visitations - and right now she is doing very well and has no desire to meet her biological family. IF that day arises, my friends have been very clear with her that they will all sit down as a family and discuss. So far, so good.