[shilala]

My girlfriend smokes cigars with me. I made it a point to find her stuff she'll like.
Granted, I got lucky.
Being a bit older, stuff that mattered just doesn't matter anymore. We just don't fight at all, we can't find anything to fight about.
I was blessed when she fell into my lap, but it wasn't for a lack of looking. I'm on Dan's side of the fence when he said "snowflakes can turn into avalanches". You don't really know someone till you're living with them, and a lot of times it can turn into sheer hell.
If it's just the cigars she's complaining about, I'm sure you can work around it. If that's the tip of the iceberg, I'd start shopping.