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Re: Need your help with future wifey

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Originally Posted by detroitpha357 (Post 1033154)

:rOMG:r

Dont get killed WOOD!!!:gnI think she shoots better then you!!!

Wood put a heater in the back room we smoke in and you'll be fine. When you move together make sure you guys get a house with a private room just for you (somewhere in the basement with a window. Use the fan).. If all else fail some get me and we'll hit a smoke shop (your driving)...:)

I will be moving in with you Book:rlz

Re: Need your help with future wifey

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Originally Posted by icehog3 (Post 1031496)

When my wife complained about the smell of my cigar smoke, I would go smoke at my girlfriend's place. :r

I cannot help but smile every time I see this... the shock and hilarity of it makes it priceless.

Re: Need your help with future wifey

Good luck with that. Changing a woman's mind about anything but particularly cigars can be nigh on impossible. IMHO it is better to spend your effort finding a cigar get away.

Re: Need your help with future wifey

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Originally Posted by DBall (Post 1032835)

The littlest snowflakes will turn into avalanches once you're married.

Isn't that the truth. It's much easier to negotiate before you are married. I think where many guys get into trouble is trying to control their wives at the same time not wanting to be controlled. It takes a major issue for me to say anything remotely critical to my wife. I am not her dad. I don't tell her where she can or can't go...what she can buy...what she can or can't do...who she can talk to...or what habits she can take up. She reciprocates and gives me the freedom I need. It's a rare day for her to bust my balls and I think it's because we treat each other like trustworthy adults.

Re: Need your help with future wifey

So have you found a new wife....

Re: Need your help with future wifey

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Originally Posted by DocLogic77 (Post 1032829)

I assure you this "dislike" will turn to outright hatred for cigars after you are married. It will become ammunition during fights even if smoked outside of the house. You will get "the look" everytime you pull one out. If you are already having to alter smoking habits it won't get any better with switching cigars.

This kind of thing needs to be worked out before you get hitched. I can tell you my wife rarely says a word about me smoking in the house or my purchases. But, I have a designated smoking room and I don't question her hobbies or purchases. It's a mutual "live and let live" attitude we were able to work out between us and it works for us. If you truly want to keep this habit and not have to listen to the nagging then communicate and come up with a plan now. If not you will be jumping through hoops the rest of your life and you will still have issues. :2

As a guy going through a divorce right now, I will echo this sage advice. Things she tolerates now, will get much more explosive once you have married. She thinks she will change you in the future. Better have a long talk now, because this is likely only the tip of the iceberg.

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Men marry women hoping they'll never change, women marry men hoping they can change them into what they want. ;s

Re: Need your help with future wifey

My girlfriend smokes cigars with me. I made it a point to find her stuff she'll like.
Granted, I got lucky.
Being a bit older, stuff that mattered just doesn't matter anymore. We just don't fight at all, we can't find anything to fight about.
I was blessed when she fell into my lap, but it wasn't for a lack of looking. I'm on Dan's side of the fence when he said "snowflakes can turn into avalanches". You don't really know someone till you're living with them, and a lot of times it can turn into sheer hell.
If it's just the cigars she's complaining about, I'm sure you can work around it. If that's the tip of the iceberg, I'd start shopping.