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things will get better, no matter how it feels. i have been in your shoes more then once. u are on the right path. you know that we are all here for you.

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Thank you Rob. Time takes too long.

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Actually that took less time than I thought, I have three dates lined up this week haha. The funny part is they all come to me. you guys are spot on.

One things for sure, Im not diving in untill I know how deep the water is.

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When you first go out with her, tell her the four magic words that will keep your relationship on track, from the first date through the 50th wedding anniversary...Four magic words, that if lived by mutually by both parties, all will be well...

You can be replaced.

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http://gallery.mobile9.com/f/739894/

:r

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You are my hero.

Though you're a few years too late on the advice....

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HAHAH! You Sir (are making a scene) Bumpage

Oh Jordan, you would.

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Hope you would too :D

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I can help with this one...
I divorced my wife five or six years ago over a long string of nasty sh!t she did. At first, I thought the things she did were about me. That she was trying to hurt me or get back at me for something she perceived I did.
It turned out that what she did was all about her, and I was just collateral damage. I just got caught in the propwash of her actions and it wasn't her intent. It wasn't about me, and that was a big relief.
I was married for a long time, we had a lot invested in our marriage, two kids, lots of stuff, and it took a good amount of time to get over it all. Mainly for her to get her head straightened out and start working in a good direction.
Now, we have a pretty decent working relationship. I still don't like her, but I didn't like her for lots of years when we were married, either. :)
What we did get from the divorce is a chance for both of us to be happy, and for us to live our lives out the way we want.
It's worked out fabulously, and I've fallen in love with a woman in a way I never thought possible.
It's already working out for you, too. Be patient. Enjoy life. Keep doing the next right thing and you'll be rewarded, guaranteed. :tu
This verse helped me a lot, even though it's out of context, I've found it applies equally to love...
Luke 6:38 (New King James Version)

38 Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.”

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if it wasn't for the bad ones, we would not appreciate the good ones.
if it wasn't for cloudy days, we would appreciate the sunny ones.
if you want to see true happiness, look into a smiling child's eyes

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I have been hit with a recent spell of what I get once in a while relative to down in the gutter feelings.
You have no idea how true the above statement is.
The only thing that makes me smile right now is looking into my grandson's eyes and seeing that happiness he has every time he sees me.

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It has been said here many of times, but time is the only thing that will help. I dated one girl through out high school, and right after we graduated she broke it off, i was crushed for months, maybe even years i would think of her, and just be sad for days... Heres my advice, dont dwell on it, and dude your going to be in college it sounds like dont settle unless you just think that one girl is the right one. Have fun and enjoy college. Another thing, is that you can look at her as a steping stone to the next girl or even wife. I know that i know how to treat my wife better because of that relationship i went through. Either way bro, good luck, i live in lakeland about 45 minutes from tampa, we she hit a cigar b&m down there sometime... either way good luck again...

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Positive thoughts being sent your way! I think quite a few of us have been there done that with this sort of thing. My first wife told me she wanted a divorce on Christmas Eve on the way home from my Dad's house. Found the love of life a couple years later, and we've been married for 15 years, have a great son of 14years, and I was able to help be a big part of her daughters life who will be bringing a grand-daughter into our lives in November.
Yes it can and does suck right now, but it sounds like your landing on your feet! Keep your chin up and let us help if we can.

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Just got back from my first date as a bachelor. It went well, we laughed and reminisced about the good ole days then walked around and all in all was a fun time. We even have a second date planned later this weekend. she is a very cute girl and Im going to have a lot of fun :)

The song by reel big Fish "All I want is more" pretty much sums up how im feeling at the moment. should Lindsey realize how awesome I am great but for now Im living my life.

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:rlz

Rules, man, rules! As a reminder, when a female is discussed it must be accompanied by pics of said female.

...So basically, pictures or it didn't happen.

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Cute! This the new one or the one in the rear view?

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You need to change that outlook.
She's history, Mark. Move on, no looking back, no reminiscing, no puppy dog BS, move forward and to how wonderful the person you seek is, not dwelling on the rear view mirror.



Of course, I'm an asshole, what do I know?

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Exactly. Also, if we learned anything from Swingers, she won't come back until you've already moved on, and then it won't matter that she came back because you've moved on.

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new

Yes Pete you are an asshole, however, you have yet to steer me wrong. thanks buddy! :tu

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Go get her brother...she looks good.

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Just tell yourself "To hell with her." If you run into her somewhere just play it cool, act like you don't even know her. Then again, I'm kind of a dick, so...:banger-(P

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And another thing...just be glad that you and her weren't married.

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I'm amazed at some of the great advice here... but figure I'd put in my two cents.

I know from experience that the good times in life can only feel so good when you've fought through the tough times as you are now. I know this is not much of a help in the short term, but hopefully it at least helps keep some perspective. When you do find the right girl, you'll be a more happy and better man for it.

In the short term... rebound. Crash the boards, so to speak. Go out, get out, and have fun. Make the best of it. You're single now... you can now do all the things you couldn't have the last three years. This is a _good_ thing!!! Live it up brother. Life is too short.

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Absolutly B, I have gotten back in touch with old friends and now even have time to listen to music again (not that lady gaga sh!t that was played incessantly.) Ive even gone out to bars and drank with complete strangers and had the best time. Plus this new pretty thing that im having fun with.

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Good work brother. Glad you're back to reality. Always a bright side...

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Hell yes! Thank you everyone for ***** slapping me back to the real world.

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See how quick that was? Remember...You. Can. Be. Replaced.

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I dunno, I'M one of a kind!

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:r

That is something I will never argue with

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Dam straight! I havent had so much fun in years. the pressure is dissipating as I float to the surface after letting go of the anchor.

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Great to hear! I hope things continue to look up for you. :tu

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How are things going, bro?

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Great question Joe!

How is our good friend Mark doing?

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Im fantastic. Back in school and now overloaded with homework and weekly quizzes. As for the love life. Lindsey the origional lady ended up seeking me back out. Things arent the same but I feel they have evolved into a more stable relationship. I have also made many new good friends already here at USF which really surprised me being that we are only a month into classes. I also just moved and live a mile away from Tampa Humidor one of the major smokeries in Tampa.

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Wait wait wait...I need to go back and read the other pages, but you went BACK to the one
that dumped you?
Or the woman you had BEFORE the one that dumped you?
Never ever go back to a woman that dumps you. That's rule 6. Once they make a call
like that, they can never be trusted again, and it will be another stake to the chest at
some later date. I am sure I am not reading this right, so forgive me, but no sirree, never
give a dumper a second chance. Watch some movies where the woman realizes she
made a mistake and tries to slither back into the life of the protagonist. Makes my
skin crawl. Especially the ones that cheat, then try to hold onto the money man after
they get caught cheating.

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I see where you are coming from but for now in this situation that doesn't apply.

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Glad things are looking up, BEAST! Be safe, and enjoy school!

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Hey guys. Took a year but you were right. Happy she's gone sad it took so long lol

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:tu
When one door closes, another one opens.

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Yes But its hard to remove the mark from where it hit her on the way out. /sadpanda

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[quote=kenstogie;905596]I recently broke up with a steady of a couple years and in my ripe old age of 39 ended it before it got to the yelling stage, I would like to think were still friends and we still talk every once in a while.

Don't be sad that it ended but happy that it happened.

I am sure there was some good that came of it after all you were with her for a while so there must've been some love there. 22 is kind of young (at least is was for me) and there still some stuff to be learned. In fact at 39 there's still stuff to be learned.

That is some stellar stuff there. Thats some solid advice!

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In my experience, you never truly get over it and at the risk of sounding like a springsteen song you learn to carry it with you. eventually, like many rough moments in life you get used to the pain and eventually forget it to a point. The hurt never goes away for good and anyone that says it does is in denial. thats just my opinion and in my experience it's the truth

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You and your girlfriend broke up AND your dog died? You're a living, breathing country song...

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It took awhile for you to learn the lesson, but in the end, recycling rarely works out.

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I dated a girl from the time I was 14 to the time I was 24. Ten years and she meant the world to me. At the time I would have given anything to be with her forever and at times I think about her and think about how things could have been.

I took the breakup really hard back then, stopped eating and sleeping. I wasn't fun to be around and was just plain miserable. But as time went on I started to get over it and went on with my life. A part of me will always miss her, but I look at my life now and realize how much better I have it.

I have a great wife and two beautiful daughters who mean the world to me. I wouldn't trade them for anything.

In the end it will all work out how it is supposed to be.

In the words of Garth Brooks "Thank God For Unanswered Prayers"

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Looks like things worked out for the best, minus your dog.

Have to admit, only scanned pages one, two and 5....so not sure this has been mentioned.

I mean absolutely no offense to anyone in a current relationship at this age or that was in one at that age that continues to this day, good for both sets of individuals.....

BUT, IMO....at your age you should be sniffing more strange tail than a mutt at the worlds largest dog park...ESPECIALLY if you are going to school, which may be the most target rich environment any 18-24 year old male will ever set foot on. It is just one man’s opinion, but I'm throwing it out there.

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Having your heart broken is really hurts. Having said that I gotta tell you that it's gotta happen before you find the best partner. I found pictures of the love of my life naked in a hotel room. I had not taken them. Ouch. I spent a couple years being a sad sack, then realized that I'm so much better off without her.

Listen to the brother's advice. You'll be fine. (Be sure to keep your eyes open!) I found my bride at a keg party playing quarters for a grad school going away party. 20 years later life is great. She can't cook, but I can spend all I want on cigars.:)

If I hadn't kept my eyes open I may not have spotted her. You will never know when you may find the one. I wish you the best of luck and don't do anything serious until you're 25 or older. That's the best advice I ever got.

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Thank you all. Keep in mind this thread is over a year old now. It sucked a year ago we got back together and just recently parted ways again. At the moment Im out and about doing all the things i couldnt with the ball and chain. Life is good.

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:tu