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So, I have been hiding my cigar smoking from my 3 y.o who is a genius, I have dipped Copenhagen for way too long and that is something I cannot hide, but everytime one goes in my lip it's "what's in your mouth daddy?" or "can I see what's in your mouth daddy?", now I have only been really into cigars for a few months but I just really don't want to broach that subject with her.
I feel bad that I have to fib to her about what I was doing in the yard but it's really not worth explaining or trying to explain to her. Anyone else have this situation or have dealt with it?
Man I'm not looking forward to having to explain that to my kids when I have them.
I would think that if you explained to her that your doing something grown ups do like drink wine and such she might just look at drinking and smoking as a grown up thing instead of it on it's own.
Best of luck mike.
688sonarmen
06-02-2011, 07:20 PM
My kid asks and I tell her it's a cigar and I like to smoke them. I don't see a problem with it and if she want's to smoke one with me when she is 18 I'll have some fine ones for her to pick through.
jayro75
06-02-2011, 07:23 PM
Be honest with her. My three year old has been trying to raid my humidor to play with my cigars since she was 1 1/2. I got a bunch of Arganese for her to play with after she destroyed a Cohiba Genios and Boli Simones. I just make sure to not smoke near her but don't hide it from her.
Bill86
06-02-2011, 07:24 PM
Although I am in no way one to suggest such things....
I would fess up....Explain it as "something adults do to relax" or "adult candy", make something up that is on her level. I'm sure one way or another she'll get it. Then you don't have to go around feeling bad or guilty. You could even do the old parent trick "one day when you're older we'll talk about that".
May as well establish that mutual level of trust and honesty early on.
Again, this is just my suggestion which holds zero merit or experience.
Sherlockholms
06-02-2011, 07:25 PM
Just tell the truth, keep it short and simple. Cigars you like to smoke, and they are good for adults.
Good info and advice bro's.
neoflex
06-02-2011, 07:28 PM
I'm with everyone else on this one. A friend of mine recently had this chat with his youngest son and told him he can have Bubble Gum Cigars until he is old enough for a Daddy Cigar. I swear the kid just gets psyched now when he sees dad with a cigar since he knows he's easy pickings to work over for a Bubble Gum cigar.
Video tape her asking and then in 15 years when she turns 18 play the video and say "remember this" which she will prob say "no" then you hand her a stick and say " well you wanted to know, now you can find out." lol
Video tape her asking and then in 15 years when she turns 18 play the video and say "remember this" which she will prob say "no" then you hand her a stick and say " well you wanted to know, now you can find out." lol
Maybe a Punisher!!!! Watch her turn green and puke, no more for her!!
Maybe a Punisher!!!! Watch her turn green and puke, no more for her!!
+1 hell record that too and play it at her wedding lol
Sherlockholms
06-02-2011, 07:34 PM
Haha. That is harsh Mike.
Haha. That is harsh Mike.
Probably a little harsh for my Angel Girl, but if I had boys it would be on!!!!:=:
Probably a little harsh for my Angel Girl, but if I had boys it would be on!!!!:=:
Man I hope I have a boy first lol.
Dude, I have 3 girls, and they are gorgeous, I am seriously gonna either have a heart attack or be in prison when the boys start coming around!!!
Dude, I have 3 girls, and they are gorgeous, I am seriously gonna either have a heart attack or be in prison when the boys start coming around!!!
That's why I want boys lol. Call me when you need back up. Lol.
Bill86
06-02-2011, 07:40 PM
Dude, I have 3 girls, and they are gorgeous, I am seriously gonna either have a heart attack or be in prison when the boys start coming around!!!
:r You're f**ked.
Better keep a nice class 3 full auto and show everyone they bring home. That should do the trick :tu
neoflex
06-02-2011, 07:45 PM
Man I hope I have a boy first lol.
I always said the same thing and guess what? I now have a 6 month old little girl. I blame all the fathers of the girls I worked over in High School. I swear they all put a hex on me. I always joked with my wife saying that I want a son first to do my dirty work but also said I know we will more than likely have a girl first if not all girls. I just hope she finds herself a really nice girlfriend one day.:D
I always said the same thing and guess what? I now have a 6 month old little girl. I blame all the fathers of the girls I worked over in High School. I swear they all put a hex on me. I always joked with my wife saying that I want a son first to do my dirty work but also said I know we will more than likely have a girl first if not all girls. I just hope she finds herself a really nice girlfriend one day.:D
Oh don't worry I'm ready for when karma slaps me with nothing but little princesses. Lol. I just can't imagine how hard it's gonna be lol
TBone
06-02-2011, 07:50 PM
Dude, I have 3 girls, and they are gorgeous, I am seriously gonna either have a heart attack or be in prison when the boys start coming around!!!
I have 2 and I made sure to cover my bases with a CWP though VA. allows for open carry...it helped weed out the undesirables
:r You're f**ked.
Better keep a nice class 3 full auto and show everyone they bring home. That should do the trick :tu
:tpd:
I always said the same thing and guess what? I now have a 6 month old little girl. I blame all the fathers of the girls I worked over in High School. I swear they all put a hex on me. I always joked with my wife saying that I want a son first to do my dirty work but also said I know we will more than likely have a girl first if not all girls. I just hope she finds herself a really nice girlfriend one day.:D
I am with you bro!!!!! I am cursed for being the kid all the dad's were worried about! I am SCREWED!!!!
neoflex
06-02-2011, 07:52 PM
Oh don't worry I'm ready for when karma slaps me with nothing but little princesses. Lol. I just can't imagine how hard it's gonna be lol
I dread the teenage years but right now I wouldn't change it for the world. She's a little cutie and has an absolutely awesome personality. Nothing beats walking in the door and when she spots me her mouth opens wide in excitement. God only knows my wife is never excited to see me. Well unless I walked in with a new pocket book and shoes under my arms but that's not happening. :D
Bill86
06-02-2011, 07:53 PM
I always said the same thing and guess what? I now have a 6 month old little girl. I blame all the fathers of the girls I worked over in High School. I swear they all put a hex on me. I always joked with my wife saying that I want a son first to do my dirty work but also said I know we will more than likely have a girl first if not all girls. I just hope she finds herself a really nice girlfriend one day.:D
:lr
I dread the teenage years but right now I wouldn't change it for the world. She's a little cutie and has an absolutely awesome personality. Nothing beats walking in the door and when she spots me her mouth opens wide in excitement.
Nothing like a baby girl!!!! I don't know what I would do without my girls :tu
Starscream
06-02-2011, 07:54 PM
I don't have this problem with cigars, but I do with alcohol. I tell my kids when they notice that I'm mixing my drinks with an energy drink rather than alcohol.
I don't have this problem with cigars, but I do with alcohol. I tell my kids when they notice that I'm mixing my drinks with an energy drink rather than alcohol.
That's what's funny, she sees me drink beer and chew but I guess I have been doing that since she was born, the cigar smoking is kinda new and just don't know how to go about it.
Blueface
06-02-2011, 08:03 PM
So, I have been hiding my cigar smoking from my 3 y.o who is a genius, I have dipped Copenhagen for way too long and that is something I cannot hide, but everytime one goes in my lip it's "what's in your mouth daddy?" or "can I see what's in your mouth daddy?", now I have only been really into cigars for a few months but I just really don't want to broach that subject with her.
I feel bad that I have to fib to her about what I was doing in the yard but it's really not worth explaining or trying to explain to her. Anyone else have this situation or have dealt with it?
Very easy solution as evidenced by my then 3 yr old grandson.:r
http://i152.photobucket.com/albums/s167/cmach_photo/IMG_0583.jpg
Bill86
06-02-2011, 08:07 PM
I guess the left hand is probably motioning for a light? Right hand looks like it wants a glass of scotch. That's a smart kid, he's got a great future ahead of him. :tu
Blueface
06-02-2011, 08:32 PM
I guess the left hand is probably motioning for a light? Right hand looks like it wants a glass of scotch. That's a smart kid, he's got a great future ahead of him. :tu
That picture has a great story to go with it.
I went to my humi to get a cigar for my dad , my son, my son in law and me.
As I was pulling out the cigars and handing them out, he asks me "what about mine?"
So I handed him one and without hesitation, he jumped on the stool and put it in his mouth.
Luckily, I had my phone at quick reach and took this quick shot.
LostAbbott
06-02-2011, 09:07 PM
Hey Remo, I have a one year old girl and I keep my smoking away from her, for now and am not sure how we will broach the subject when she gets older.
As for beer, she is already having sips of dads beer when he is having some.
As for boys, as soon as she can walk we will be taking karate classes. That way I figure if some boy does go to far she can easily break his nose, and i don't have to worry.
Yup, just raise them well and keep them safe :tu
Aero95
06-02-2011, 09:14 PM
My little 3yr old boy tells me to grab a cigar when we go out to play in the yard. I just tell him this is an adult activity.
MurphysLaw
06-02-2011, 09:28 PM
Great pic Carlos! :tu
Bill86
06-02-2011, 09:32 PM
My little 3yr old boy tells me to grab a cigar when we go out to play in the yard. I just tell him this is an adult activity.
Wait, you don't already have a cigar when you go outside :confused:
Looks like he's got YOUR priorities straight. :D
Bill86
06-02-2011, 09:35 PM
That picture has a great story to go with it.
I went to my humi to get a cigar for my dad , my son, my son in law and me.
As I was pulling out the cigars and handing them out, he asks me "what about mine?"
So I handed him one and without hesitation, he jumped on the stool and put it in his mouth.
Luckily, I had my phone at quick reach and took this quick shot.
Thats awesome, this hobby really brings everyone together. Thanks for sharing the story behind the picture :tu
Aero95
06-02-2011, 09:57 PM
Wait, you don't already have a cigar when you go outside :confused:
Looks like he's got YOUR priorities straight. :D
:D Luca my boy usually shrugs his shoulders and says come on and then points to a cigar and says now come on lets go outside.
Wanger
06-03-2011, 07:23 AM
Great advice here. As for me, I've been smoking cigars since my son was young, so he's seen me smoke many times. Since I only smoke cigars, it's easy for me to defend. He's gotten the "smoking is bad" classes at school, and when they were in those, he was telling em I shouldn't smoke and that it's not healthy. I told him that I don't inhale, like a cigarette, and that I don't have enough of them for it to be very bad for my health. As I said that, I was thinking "I'm healthier than the people teaching that to him, with the races I do." LOL
And as far as the girls comments go...we have an almost 13yr old (hers with her ex), so I'm on the doorstep (though she's been acting like she was 20something since she was 4). I feel fortunate that I can be intimidating easily at times. :p When I was a teenager, I was the type of kid that the parents wanted their girls to date, but none of the girls did. LOL And I think I'll steal neoflex's line here, too...I hope she finds herself a really nice girlfriend. :p
Skywalker
06-03-2011, 08:16 AM
Honesty is the best policy!
I also have a 3 year old and he knows when I'm in the backyard or garage there's a good chance I'm having a cigar!
I give him chocolate cigars to play with and eat, once in awhile.
As for my daughter... I just married her off last month!!!:dance:
http://imageshack.us/m/35/1929/503l.jpg
lbowles2
06-03-2011, 08:34 AM
My 4 yr old daughter likes to smell my cigars when I get them in and unwrap them. When I smoke one out on the
porch she will be out there with me but I feel bad sometimes when she can't sit on my lap because I have the cigar.
As for when she gets older... She's a cutey now and I think she is going to be good lookin' as she gets older. I just
figure I will tell any dude that comes to pick her up that I wouldn't mind going back to prison :D
nofeardiver
06-03-2011, 08:38 AM
man not looking foreward to this my one year old allready crawls over and lifts him self up and bang on the glass of my vino... i am going to have to figure out a way to lock it...
neoflex
06-03-2011, 08:43 AM
man not looking foreward to this my one year old allready crawls over and lifts him self up and bang on the glass of my vino... i am going to have to figure out a way to lock it...
There's a thread somewhere on here where someone came up with a halfway decent looking system.
Do you have a room where the door can be closed? May be a good alternative on where to keep it. I know when my daughter gets to that stage I may need to reassess my storage devices and go with a Vino or maybe a cooled Cabinet so I can keep them in my office upstairs where she can't just wonder in and have at it.
nofeardiver
06-03-2011, 08:45 AM
will have to look its and edgestar, i know the vino i bought from Larry(Ogre) has a key hole, he is looking for the key for me, so i can lock that one, the other one i might have to put one of those child proof plastic locks on it temporary....
Christiel49
06-03-2011, 08:49 AM
Dude, I have 3 girls, and they are gorgeous, I am seriously gonna either have a heart attack or be in prison when the boys start coming around!!!
I totally feel ya!!!!!
My daughter will be three in September. I don't smoke around her, but she knows mama smokes cigars. We really have not had any ?'s, just that is mama's cigars. Now the lighter is a totally different story!!!! I have to keep it HIDDEN! I generally smoke when I don't have her, because cigar smoke is so pungent and she likes snuggling!
I hope this helps!
I have to have talks with her about my SCOTCH being for adults way more often that the cigar situation. You would think that it taste bad to her, but she likes it. Definately my child :D
awsmith4
06-03-2011, 09:05 AM
I have a 4yr old boy and a 2yr old girl. I smoke cigars, I drink and I brew beer. They ask questions and I answer honestly. When the 4yr old has asked to try the cigar I said "When you are 18 you can". When he asked me why I told him because his body has to be big like mine (at which he points and laughs at my belly) and that just like driving, the law saw you have to be a certain age or the police will come and get you. Would this conversation work with an older kid, probably not but I am just learning as I go. My parents drank and smoked cigars in front of me and I always understood that I couldn't until I was older.
By the way Remo, I haven't forgotten about you :chr
Good suggestions guys, thanks.
Albert, I know :r
I too get this question from my 4 & 5 yr olds. They have gotten the smoking is bad for you stuff; my 5 yr old from school. Anyway, my wife smokes cigarettes, and they know they are bad for her.
She's trying to quit now, but a but it is hard for the kids to understand the difference between cigarettes and cigars. They understand that some drinks are "grown up" drinks and that some grown ups smoke. That much get. Good luck.
BTW, it's hard to think about some guy coming over to date my daughter (4) someday. That said I have a healthy firearm collection and I'm about 6'6" & 295. I promise you I will find a number of ways to put the fear of God into some poor kid's soul.
Ranger_B
06-03-2011, 09:08 AM
My wife has a 4 and 8 year old both girls. Whenever a box is on the steps the first thing they ask is if it is more cigars. Whoops guess I need to cut back. Anyway everytime it is cigars they are the first to open the boxes so they can smell them. I dont smoke near them unless we are hiking. When they ask about them I tell them I smoke cigars to relax.
pektel
06-03-2011, 09:31 AM
Man I hope I have a boy first lol.
I have 2 boys (3 years and 1 year old). Tell you what, I was hoping for boys too, but my main concern was 10 fingers and 10 toes. Just a healthy baby was enough for me.
OP, my 3 year old knows what cigars are, and knows not to go near them. I told him once he's big like me, he can if he wants to. But cigars are only for grownups.
If they ever ask to try your beer though, let them. It only takes one little sip for them to never ask again! :r
treatneggy
06-03-2011, 11:01 AM
man not looking foreward to this my one year old allready crawls over and lifts him self up and bang on the glass of my vino... i am going to have to figure out a way to lock it...
I feel your pain. My 2 year old loves to play in any humidor he can reach, and ripped the hinges out of a desktop humidor while trying to open it - I think he had a hold of the lid and the humidor slipped off the desk.
He also likes to carry around any cigars he can find, especially when I'm trying to re-arrange the cooler!
mmblz
06-03-2011, 11:25 AM
my 3 year old daughter told me my cigar was stinky the other day ;)
CigarNut
06-03-2011, 12:50 PM
my 3 year old daughter told me my cigar was stinky the other day ;)You imply a great point here...
Don't hide your cigar smoking. Kids are not stupid and they will get the wrong idea. Explain to them what it is, why you do it, and why they cannot do it now (it's an adult privilege)...
FWIW mmblz, my 20 year old son agrees with your daughter... :)
Blueface
06-03-2011, 01:29 PM
You imply a great point here...
Don't hide your cigar smoking. Kids are not stupid and they will get the wrong idea. Explain to them what it is, why you do it, and why they cannot do it now (it's an adult privilege)...
FWIW mmblz, my 20 year old son agrees with your daughter... :)
Or......................
I assure you, my grandson will not touch a cigar for a very, very long time.
Right after that photo, the sting kicked in on the lips and tongue and on the floor it went.
Sometimes seeing it and touching it goes a long way with kids.
A kid's expert I saw once when I was a parent for the first time said something that stuck with my wife and I for years.
She said let them touch it, feel it, and they will move on.
For years, we had very expensive Capodimonte that survived through two kids by applying this principle.
Once the curiosity is satified, they move on.
shark
06-03-2011, 09:28 PM
The way that I see it, you have nothing to explain to her. Adults do things that may seem strange to a child but that's the way that the world works.
shark
06-03-2011, 09:30 PM
I have 2 boys (3 years and 1 year old). Tell you what, I was hoping for boys too, but my main concern was 10 fingers and 10 toes. Just a healthy baby was enough for me.
OP, my 3 year old knows what cigars are, and knows not to go near them. I told him once he's big like me, he can if he wants to. But cigars are only for grownups.
If they ever ask to try your beer though, let them. It only takes one little sip for them to never ask again! :r
Especially if it's a really hoppy IPA!!
shark
06-03-2011, 09:39 PM
My Dad and a couple of his brothers used to spark up cigars whenever they got together when I was a kid. I didn't like the smell of them at the time (and I KNOW my Mom DIDN'T like cigars!!!), so I never bothered to question that. However, my Dad used to like smoking a pipe quite frequently, now that smell I liked! However, I never thought to get into Dad's tobacco, because I already knew that the consequences would be dire! :D SO here I sit, with cigar in hand...funny how that works, isn't it? I miss you Dad! :tu I think my Dad and Uncles would approve of my choices in cigars, though.
forgop
06-03-2011, 09:49 PM
That's why I want boys lol. Call me when you need back up. Lol.
This is the reason I'll be on the front porch cleaning a shotgun the first time a boy comes over to the house.
I'll also take him out for a walk around the block explaining my expectations and should I find out that any of them are broken, I have ready-mix concrete in the garage ready to go and nobody would ever find his body in the pond. :r
mmblz
06-04-2011, 06:02 AM
If they ever ask to try your beer though, let them. It only takes one little sip for them to never ask again! :r
Actually as far as beer, my 1 and 3 year olds both love it :r
longknocker
06-04-2011, 07:28 AM
I Have A 3 Year Old Grandson That Follows Me Everywhere & Wants To Do Every Thing I Do. I Explain To Him When He "Grows Up", He Can Decide If He Wants To Smoke Cigars, But Now He Is Too Young. He Understands!:tu My Wife & Daughter Hate It, Though, When He Smells My Cigar & Says, "Ummm, That Smells So Good!":D
Steve
06-04-2011, 07:40 AM
Dude, I have 3 girls, and they are gorgeous, I am seriously gonna either have a heart attack or be in prison when the boys start coming around!!!
At least we'll be together...wait, that didn't sound right. Especially in reference to prison :D
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