Crushed.

[Wolfgang]

I know quite a few members her have gone through a divorce or breakup at some time in their dating careers.
Which brings me to my dilema. After 3 years my Girlfriend and I have broken up. I dont know if its for good or anything like that. I know I am young (almost 22) but the heavy heart and feeling of extreme loss is real all the same. What are your experiences with getting past someone that was such an integral part of your life for so long?

Any insight is greatly appreciated. (but dont be a D!ck)

[Samsquanch]

Sorry brother, been there. The only thing that helped is time. There were times when it seemed like I'd never get over her but I did and I found the woman who put all the rest to shame. Oh and a little whiskey helped as well ;)

[md4958]

As one chapter of your life ends, another begins. Youre devastated now, but in a couple years you'll be wanting to send her a fruit basket for doing you the favor.

Keep your chin up, everything happens for a reason.

[BlackDog]

I have no words of wisdom, but I do hope that this turns out to be a blessing for you in the future.

[G G]

I have no words of wisdom, but I do hope that this turns out to be a blessing for you in the future.

Same here.

[Wolfgang]

So far I like the whiskey idea best. :ss Im moving away too so that will help too.

[Chingas]

Listen brother. Number one, don't dwell. It's dangerous. Keep your head up and always look on the bright side of things. If you can believe that everything happens for a reason then your good to go and ahead of the game.

I'm sure this isn't your first girlfriend. Maybe first of three years, maybe she did things for you the previous wouldn't but the fact remains if the last relationship didn't end then this one would not have started.

Spend your time doing things you like. 22? Cigars, video games, music, fireworks, friends, family, bowling. Whatever.

Take down her picture man, looking at it does nothing for you. Close the book, throw it on the shelf and open yourself a new one. An interesting one. Sometimes, change is good!

Feel better brother. If you need anything, let me know.

[Wolfgang]

I hear you. Thanks for the tip. Having the support of an entire family here just made things a little easier to take.

[ChicagoWhiteSox]

Life is too short. Don't get too upset. While one door may close, one always opens:)

[Whee]

This place. Seriously. Couldn't have slogged through it without these knuckle heads.

Biggest mistake for me was becoming a hermit. Herfs got me out of the house.
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[Wolfgang]

I am moving to Tampa so Ill be able to hang out with all the guys up there and a school with atleast 20,000 students should pep me up.

[awsmith4]

Sorry to hear that Mark, here's to quick healing and what lies ahead. I'm here (as I would imagine many others are) if you need and ear brother.

[Lear31MX]

Sorry to hear the bad news. IMO good freinds and time will make it hurt less and less.

[Wolfgang]

Thanks Al I may take you up on that.

Time takes too long.

[SmokeyJoe]

Last time I went through this was college... when dinosaurs ruled the earth. :D

Girl I had asked to marry me - dumped me... after I drove 14 hours home to see her... had just given her an expensive gift... on Christmas Eve. Man that sucked! :mad:

I moped for three days... tried to win her back... wrote her a card and left it on her car. No response. :sad

I was ticked... decided to ask out a girl I had known for years that liked me. We saw each other every day until I went back to school.

Started dating another girl when I got back to school... and I have been married to her for over 26 years.

I am so glad that the relationship with the first girl ended when it did - or the timing would not have been right otherwise. Hurt at the time, but not for too long.

If your old girlfriend wants to spend her life with you, she will figure it out. But if she really isn't sure... then you are better off to find out now. Hurts now - but would hurt even more later if you had gotten even deeper involved.

Praying for you, Mark. You have much to look forward to! :tu

[SmokeyJoe]

I am moving to Tampa so Ill be able to hang out with all the guys up there and a school with atleast 20,000 students should pep me up.

Go hang out with TripleF... Scott will fix you right up! :ss

Maybe he has a daughter... :hm

[s0leful0ne]

Dang Mark sorry to hear.

Herfing with us will probably help :)

[Wolfgang]

Maybe he has a daughter... :hm

He does but I highly doubt hed let a wild man like me meet her lol

[Wolfgang]

I definitely need to occupy myself to keep from thinking of her.

[Chingas]

Smoke a cigar and rewatch your favorite movie.

[pnoon]

One door may have closed. But, in time, you will find that many others will open.

Take it from an old fart who knows. :pn (oops. sorry.)

[s0leful0ne]

500 days of summer. Revoke my man card if you like, but its the perfect movie for this.

[Ratters]

Sorry to hear it Mark.

When I was your age and that stuff happened to me I'd revel in it for awhile. Listen to some Frank Sinatra, cause when you've loved and lost the way Frank has you know what life's about. ;) But hang out with your buddies and have fun. These break ups hurt, they're supposed to, lets you know you're human. It will turn around soon enough and then you'll be going "man I miss my single days". :D

So buck up little camper, tomorrow will be a brighter day.

[GreekGodX]

Just keep your head up and keep moving forward :tu Just think all the time you'll have for cigars and drinks now :ss

[Pass]

Like Chingas said. Had an earlier relationship not ended... you wouldn't have had this one. Now that this one has ended you have the next to look forward to. With many hard lessons learned, which will make the next relationship that much better! Trust me... been there done that!

But future reflections take time to help heal the wound. You're hurting now... My suggestion? Do something incredibly selfish for you! Go buy a motorcycle or something nice like a hug new humidor!!! Then go about finding and collecting cigars. Sometimes a little selfishness and irresponsibility can go a LONG way towards cheering you up!

[lightning9191]

It's better to figure out that it wouldn't work out now, then after you marry her.:tu What to do now? Whatever you want to.....because someday you'll probably have a lot less freedom. Just don't lock yourself in. Sit on your porch, drink a beer, have a cigar, and read a good book. Go fishing. Go out with your friends. Go to the shooting range. It's summertime...lots of festivals. Go camping. Do some project you've been meaning to get to (woodworking, write a book, whatever). Just remember that you have lots of friends and family online and off that are here for ya if you need them.

[blugill]

AS been stated before don't dwell. You are 22, I didn't realize how dumb I was at 22 until I was 32, then I didn't realize how dumb I was at 32 until I hit 40.

Mourn the loss, recover from it, before you know it someone will be along and be better than before.

I married for the first time at 39 now I have two beautiful teenage daughters, and a very loving wife, none of which I would have had if I hadn't had bad breakups before.

It's part of it brother, a life experience and you have to go through the bad to find the truly good.

[kenstogie]

I recently broke up with a steady of a couple years and in my ripe old age of 39 ended it before it got to the yelling stage, I would like to think were still friends and we still talk every once in a while.

Don't be sad that it ended but happy that it happened.

I am sure there was some good that came of it after all you were with her for a while so there must've been some love there. 22 is kind of young (at least is was for me) and there still some stuff to be learned. In fact at 39 there's still stuff to be learned.

A one night fling always helps too.

[Wanger]

500 days of summer. Revoke my man card if you like, but its the perfect movie for this.

I think it was revoked a long time ago, Aldrin. :p

The advice given is pretty much nuts on. #1, you're young, and it's part of life and growing up. I too, was one who felt things like this deeply and painfully. I got married to my ex when I was 22 (WAY too young). But the things I went through while with her made me the person I am today. It prepared me for the rest of my life. Several people here have met my wife, and know just how lucky I am. I love her dearly, and we are MUCH MUCH MUCH more compatible than I was with my ex. She loves and supports me and lets me be who I am.

take a step back and look at things differently. Remember the good times, but try not to dwell on them. Those memories will fade with time, but there are MANY more adventures waiting ahead of you. Heading to school in Tampa? Think of all the much hotter coeds you'll be able to hook up with now. :D Just relax and enjoy life as you can. The right opportunities will show themselves when you least expect them. I know that one from experience. The harder you look for them, the harder they will be to find.

Keep ya chin up!

[Scottw]

I got invited to my ex girlfriends wedding after bumping into her at college a year earlier. Not exactly the most fun watching your ex all over someone else saying I do, etc. Later that night, I met a beautiful girl who had just had a breakup of her own. We danced, had a drink and two weeks later met for dinner. I have been with her for the past 11 years since and share a home and a beautiful family with her.

Keep your head up and know that you have the whole world open to you. Make something great happen!

[Superbad]

I guess you could call me an old fart as I shall turn 40 this year, but I am in denial as I still think I am young. My advice is that you should recognize that she just gave you the best gift ever. Will you be going to USF? If so that is 40,000 students and as a recent alumnus I can assure you there is no shortage of attractive and smart women there. Tampa is a great city and the cigar culture is still alive there. At age 22 you are still young, and have lots of great things ahead of you. Try not to dwell on the past, move ahead towards new experiences and new friends. Next time I will be in tampa maybe we can get together and have a cigar.

Oh yeah.... GO BULLS!!!

[Blueface]

Sorry to hear.
Been there.
You have to follow one simple philosophy:
One door closes but another opens.
Things happen for a reason.

[Wolfgang]

Byt I feel like my fingers were still in the door when it slammed shut. I'm doing my best to "move on" but she was there for me through a lot of the medical adventures I Went through. She was a major support system for me and it seems as though my legs were kicked out from under me.

[Wolfgang]

Well, My dog just died at the age of 15. That should keep my mind off things.

[borndead1]

I am moving to Tampa so Ill be able to hang out with all the guys up there and a school with atleast 20,000 students should pep me up.

They make some good cigars in Tampa. :D

My only advice is this: if you have any kind of daily routine, break it as much as you can for a while. I know it sounds crazy, but it will help.

[Ratters]

Well, My dog just died at the age of 15. That should keep my mind off things.

:( Sending prayers and good thoughts your way.

[Superbad]

Well, My dog just died at the age of 15. That should keep my mind off things.

Wolfgang,
I am so sorry! My heart goes out to you. Are you from SRQ? I grew up on bird key.

[Pass]

Well, My dog just died at the age of 15. That should keep my mind off things.

Dude, that sucks! Losing your best friend is NEVER easy! I remember when we had to put down my St. Bernard when I was a kid. We had him for not even half the time you've had yours (hell, you basically grew up with him) and I was devastated. Took me another 4yrs or so before I could bring myself to get another dog.

On the upside... He was 15. So he lived a very long, happy, and fulfilled life. Most dogs - unless very well loved and cared for - never make it that far. Take solace in knowing that you gave a friend your very best and made their life long and fulfilled.

If you were in VA, man, the scotch (gotta bottle of The Glenlivet that is now 19yrs old) and the stogies would be on me.

[OLS]

NO matter what happened, it is always for the best. A good woman sees a good man and stays. A woman
who will just end up screwing you over for cash anyway? It's better to let them go. let her go ruin some other
man's life. They look like flowers and music on the outside, but they are the most cunning, cruel things
on the planet. Every one who ever dumped me probably did the right thing, I have never stayed put anywhere
for very long, and I have never earned a big pile of cash as a result. Plus I work in a tough field for getting
rich to begin with. But when they left, I am sure they thought twice about the lovin'. There has never been
a better lover on the planet than me.

[sikk50]

My gf of 2yrs broke up with me a month ago. There's two wys to get through it (I've had plenty of break ups lol).

Jerk move but fastest healing: Think of a break up as putting down your old dog. Now it's time to go find a puppy to help you forget. I recommend a higher class pet store (fine establishment with cocktails) not a pound with rescue puppies (club).

Less than jerk move: Keep talking to her which will cause you to hurt longer.

Good guy move: Smoke some cigars, get back in touch with friends you've drifted apart from in the last few years, smokes some cigars and drink some scotch.

[SmokeyJoe]

With your recent struggles, this came to mind:

7But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. 8We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.
2 Corinthians 4:7-11 (New International Version)

[AAlmeter]

The only advice I'll add is to listen to the above posters.

I went through a really rough breakup a few years ago. To make it worse, I was somewhere in the middle of a 9 month stint of living in a hotel in a fairly desolate area of upstate NY in winter.

Someone posted a thread on here (or CS, can't remember) similar to yours. He was venting his misery and asking whether or not to keep up the effort to get her back. I believe it was Tom who came through with the sage advice of letting things be and moving on. I figured that my situation was different, no one has experienced the love I did, etc etc etc. Turns out, that advice I read given by a guy I never met in person to another guy I never met in person was spot on. I finally let go, and ended up meeting the wonderful girl I'm now engaged to.

Enjoy life, experience life, and listen to the Adm DB.

[Chingas]

Dude, your Dog too. I'm so sorry. Swing by Jersey before Tampa and we'll kick back, shoot the **** and have a smoke on me...

[RGD.]

As they say: Sh*t happens. And it normally happens for a reason. Sometimes you never get over or at least never forget. I still think about a girl, we were going to get married, then broke up. I've written about her and wrote to her - but never mailed them.

Then I met my wife - and that was like 33 years ago. So it's tough, it sucks, but eventually you will find the one that was meant for you.

Ron

[Wolfgang]

Thank you all for the support it helped me quite a bit.

[Chingas]

Whatever we can do to help brother. No worries.

[Wolfgang]

Ive actually got a date (per say) on Wednesday with a girl i've known for years. She is going to show me around campus and help me look for apartments.

[Whee]

Ive actually got a date (per say) on Wednesday with a girl i've known for years. She is going to show me around campus and help me look for apartments.
:tu

[Chingas]

Thumbs up brother. Rule one... DONT MENTION THE EX!

[Wolfgang]

I most certainly will not.

[GoodFella]

Ive actually got a date (per say) on Wednesday with a girl i've known for years. She is going to show me around campus and help me look for apartments.

things will get better, no matter how it feels. i have been in your shoes more then once. u are on the right path. you know that we are all here for you.

[Wolfgang]

Thank you Rob. Time takes too long.

[Wolfgang]

Actually that took less time than I thought, I have three dates lined up this week haha. The funny part is they all come to me. you guys are spot on.

One things for sure, Im not diving in untill I know how deep the water is.

[Virginia_Ghost]

When you first go out with her, tell her the four magic words that will keep your relationship on track, from the first date through the 50th wedding anniversary...Four magic words, that if lived by mutually by both parties, all will be well...

You can be replaced.

[JE3146]

Actually that took less time than I thought, I have three dates lined up this week haha. The funny part is they all come to me. you guys are spot on.

One things for sure, Im not diving in untill I know how deep the water is.

http://gallery.mobile9.com/f/739894/

:r

[JE3146]

When you first go out with her, tell her the four magic words that will keep your relationship on track, from the first date through the 50th wedding anniversary...Four magic words, that if lived by mutually by both parties, all will be well...

You can be replaced.

You are my hero.

Though you're a few years too late on the advice....

[Wolfgang]

When you first go out with her, tell her the four magic words that will keep your relationship on track, from the first date through the 50th wedding anniversary...Four magic words, that if lived by mutually by both parties, all will be well...

You can be replaced.

HAHAH! You Sir (are making a scene) Bumpage

http://gallery.mobile9.com/f/739894/

:r

Oh Jordan, you would.

[JE3146]

Oh Jordan, you would.

Hope you would too :D

[shilala]

Byt I feel like my fingers were still in the door when it slammed shut. I'm doing my best to "move on" but she was there for me through a lot of the medical adventures I Went through. She was a major support system for me and it seems as though my legs were kicked out from under me.

I can help with this one...
I divorced my wife five or six years ago over a long string of nasty sh!t she did. At first, I thought the things she did were about me. That she was trying to hurt me or get back at me for something she perceived I did.
It turned out that what she did was all about her, and I was just collateral damage. I just got caught in the propwash of her actions and it wasn't her intent. It wasn't about me, and that was a big relief.
I was married for a long time, we had a lot invested in our marriage, two kids, lots of stuff, and it took a good amount of time to get over it all. Mainly for her to get her head straightened out and start working in a good direction.
Now, we have a pretty decent working relationship. I still don't like her, but I didn't like her for lots of years when we were married, either. :)
What we did get from the divorce is a chance for both of us to be happy, and for us to live our lives out the way we want.
It's worked out fabulously, and I've fallen in love with a woman in a way I never thought possible.
It's already working out for you, too. Be patient. Enjoy life. Keep doing the next right thing and you'll be rewarded, guaranteed. :tu
This verse helped me a lot, even though it's out of context, I've found it applies equally to love...
Luke 6:38 (New King James Version)

38 Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.”

[Big_Ern]

if it wasn't for the bad ones, we would not appreciate the good ones.
if it wasn't for cloudy days, we would appreciate the sunny ones.
if you want to see true happiness, look into a smiling child's eyes

[Blueface]

if you want to see true happiness, look into a smiling child's eyes

I have been hit with a recent spell of what I get once in a while relative to down in the gutter feelings.
You have no idea how true the above statement is.
The only thing that makes me smile right now is looking into my grandson's eyes and seeing that happiness he has every time he sees me.

[nofeardiver]

It has been said here many of times, but time is the only thing that will help. I dated one girl through out high school, and right after we graduated she broke it off, i was crushed for months, maybe even years i would think of her, and just be sad for days... Heres my advice, dont dwell on it, and dude your going to be in college it sounds like dont settle unless you just think that one girl is the right one. Have fun and enjoy college. Another thing, is that you can look at her as a steping stone to the next girl or even wife. I know that i know how to treat my wife better because of that relationship i went through. Either way bro, good luck, i live in lakeland about 45 minutes from tampa, we she hit a cigar b&m down there sometime... either way good luck again...

[Gophernut]

Positive thoughts being sent your way! I think quite a few of us have been there done that with this sort of thing. My first wife told me she wanted a divorce on Christmas Eve on the way home from my Dad's house. Found the love of life a couple years later, and we've been married for 15 years, have a great son of 14years, and I was able to help be a big part of her daughters life who will be bringing a grand-daughter into our lives in November.
Yes it can and does suck right now, but it sounds like your landing on your feet! Keep your chin up and let us help if we can.

[Wolfgang]

Just got back from my first date as a bachelor. It went well, we laughed and reminisced about the good ole days then walked around and all in all was a fun time. We even have a second date planned later this weekend. she is a very cute girl and Im going to have a lot of fun :)

The song by reel big Fish "All I want is more" pretty much sums up how im feeling at the moment. should Lindsey realize how awesome I am great but for now Im living my life.

[Pass]

Just got back from my first date as a bachelor. It went well, we laughed and reminisced about the good ole days then walked around and all in all was a fun time. We even have a second date planned later this weekend. she is a very cute girl and Im going to have a lot of fun :)

The song by reel big Fish "All I want is more" pretty much sums up how im feeling at the moment. should Lindsey realize how awesome I am great but for now Im living my life.

:rlz

Rules, man, rules! As a reminder, when a female is discussed it must be accompanied by pics of said female.

...So basically, pictures or it didn't happen.

[Wolfgang]

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash1/hs448.ash1/24688_1268380144984_1094220063_30701879_3872845_n. jpg

[Pass]

Cute! This the new one or the one in the rear view?

[replicant_argent]

should Lindsey realize how awesome I am great but for now Im living my life.

You need to change that outlook.
She's history, Mark. Move on, no looking back, no reminiscing, no puppy dog BS, move forward and to how wonderful the person you seek is, not dwelling on the rear view mirror.



Of course, I'm an asshole, what do I know?

[Sauer Grapes]

You need to change that outlook.
She's history, Mark. Move on, no looking back, no reminiscing, no puppy dog BS, move forward and to how wonderful the person you seek is, not dwelling on the rear view mirror.



Of course, I'm an asshole, what do I know?
Exactly. Also, if we learned anything from Swingers, she won't come back until you've already moved on, and then it won't matter that she came back because you've moved on.

[Wolfgang]

Cute! This the new one or the one in the rear view?

new

You need to change that outlook.
She's history, Mark. Move on, no looking back, no reminiscing, no puppy dog BS, move forward and to how wonderful the person you seek is, not dwelling on the rear view mirror.



Of course, I'm an asshole, what do I know?

Yes Pete you are an asshole, however, you have yet to steer me wrong. thanks buddy! :tu

[Chingas]

Go get her brother...she looks good.

[shark]

Actually that took less time than I thought, I have three dates lined up this week haha. The funny part is they all come to me. you guys are spot on.

One things for sure, Im not diving in untill I know how deep the water is.

Just tell yourself "To hell with her." If you run into her somewhere just play it cool, act like you don't even know her. Then again, I'm kind of a dick, so...:banger-(P

[shark]

And another thing...just be glad that you and her weren't married.

[bsmokin]

I'm amazed at some of the great advice here... but figure I'd put in my two cents.

I know from experience that the good times in life can only feel so good when you've fought through the tough times as you are now. I know this is not much of a help in the short term, but hopefully it at least helps keep some perspective. When you do find the right girl, you'll be a more happy and better man for it.

In the short term... rebound. Crash the boards, so to speak. Go out, get out, and have fun. Make the best of it. You're single now... you can now do all the things you couldn't have the last three years. This is a _good_ thing!!! Live it up brother. Life is too short.

[Wolfgang]

Absolutly B, I have gotten back in touch with old friends and now even have time to listen to music again (not that lady gaga sh!t that was played incessantly.) Ive even gone out to bars and drank with complete strangers and had the best time. Plus this new pretty thing that im having fun with.

[Chingas]

Good work brother. Glad you're back to reality. Always a bright side...

[Wolfgang]

Hell yes! Thank you everyone for ***** slapping me back to the real world.

[Virginia_Ghost]

See how quick that was? Remember...You. Can. Be. Replaced.

[Wolfgang]

I dunno, I'M one of a kind!

[awsmith4]

I dunno, I'M one of a kind!

:r

That is something I will never argue with

[Wolfgang]

Dam straight! I havent had so much fun in years. the pressure is dissipating as I float to the surface after letting go of the anchor.

[BlackDog]

Dam straight! I havent had so much fun in years. the pressure is dissipating as I float to the surface after letting go of the anchor.

Great to hear! I hope things continue to look up for you. :tu

[SmokeyJoe]

How are things going, bro?

[Chingas]

Great question Joe!

How is our good friend Mark doing?

[Wolfgang]

Im fantastic. Back in school and now overloaded with homework and weekly quizzes. As for the love life. Lindsey the origional lady ended up seeking me back out. Things arent the same but I feel they have evolved into a more stable relationship. I have also made many new good friends already here at USF which really surprised me being that we are only a month into classes. I also just moved and live a mile away from Tampa Humidor one of the major smokeries in Tampa.

[OLS]

Wait wait wait...I need to go back and read the other pages, but you went BACK to the one
that dumped you?
Or the woman you had BEFORE the one that dumped you?
Never ever go back to a woman that dumps you. That's rule 6. Once they make a call
like that, they can never be trusted again, and it will be another stake to the chest at
some later date. I am sure I am not reading this right, so forgive me, but no sirree, never
give a dumper a second chance. Watch some movies where the woman realizes she
made a mistake and tries to slither back into the life of the protagonist. Makes my
skin crawl. Especially the ones that cheat, then try to hold onto the money man after
they get caught cheating.

[Wolfgang]

I see where you are coming from but for now in this situation that doesn't apply.

[Emjaysmash]

Im fantastic. Back in school and now overloaded with homework and weekly quizzes. As for the love life. Lindsey the origional lady ended up seeking me back out. Things arent the same but I feel they have evolved into a more stable relationship. I have also made many new good friends already here at USF which really surprised me being that we are only a month into classes. I also just moved and live a mile away from Tampa Humidor one of the major smokeries in Tampa.

Glad things are looking up, BEAST! Be safe, and enjoy school!

[Wolfgang]

Hey guys. Took a year but you were right. Happy she's gone sad it took so long lol

[pnoon]

Hey guys. Took a year but you were right. Happy she's gone sad it took so long lol

:tu
When one door closes, another one opens.

[Wolfgang]

Yes But its hard to remove the mark from where it hit her on the way out. /sadpanda

[KidRock]

[QUOTE=kenstogie;905596]I recently broke up with a steady of a couple years and in my ripe old age of 39 ended it before it got to the yelling stage, I would like to think were still friends and we still talk every once in a while.

Don't be sad that it ended but happy that it happened.

I am sure there was some good that came of it after all you were with her for a while so there must've been some love there. 22 is kind of young (at least is was for me) and there still some stuff to be learned. In fact at 39 there's still stuff to be learned.

That is some stellar stuff there. Thats some solid advice!

[bruceolee]

In my experience, you never truly get over it and at the risk of sounding like a springsteen song you learn to carry it with you. eventually, like many rough moments in life you get used to the pain and eventually forget it to a point. The hurt never goes away for good and anyone that says it does is in denial. thats just my opinion and in my experience it's the truth

[Stephen]

Well, My dog just died at the age of 15. That should keep my mind off things.
You and your girlfriend broke up AND your dog died? You're a living, breathing country song...

[Stephen]

Hey guys. Took a year but you were right. Happy she's gone sad it took so long lol
It took awhile for you to learn the lesson, but in the end, recycling rarely works out.

[Kneo]

I dated a girl from the time I was 14 to the time I was 24. Ten years and she meant the world to me. At the time I would have given anything to be with her forever and at times I think about her and think about how things could have been.

I took the breakup really hard back then, stopped eating and sleeping. I wasn't fun to be around and was just plain miserable. But as time went on I started to get over it and went on with my life. A part of me will always miss her, but I look at my life now and realize how much better I have it.

I have a great wife and two beautiful daughters who mean the world to me. I wouldn't trade them for anything.

In the end it will all work out how it is supposed to be.

In the words of Garth Brooks "Thank God For Unanswered Prayers"

[E.J.]

Looks like things worked out for the best, minus your dog.

Have to admit, only scanned pages one, two and 5....so not sure this has been mentioned.

I mean absolutely no offense to anyone in a current relationship at this age or that was in one at that age that continues to this day, good for both sets of individuals.....

BUT, IMO....at your age you should be sniffing more strange tail than a mutt at the worlds largest dog park...ESPECIALLY if you are going to school, which may be the most target rich environment any 18-24 year old male will ever set foot on. It is just one man’s opinion, but I'm throwing it out there.

[Tio Gato]

Having your heart broken is really hurts. Having said that I gotta tell you that it's gotta happen before you find the best partner. I found pictures of the love of my life naked in a hotel room. I had not taken them. Ouch. I spent a couple years being a sad sack, then realized that I'm so much better off without her.

Listen to the brother's advice. You'll be fine. (Be sure to keep your eyes open!) I found my bride at a keg party playing quarters for a grad school going away party. 20 years later life is great. She can't cook, but I can spend all I want on cigars.:)

If I hadn't kept my eyes open I may not have spotted her. You will never know when you may find the one. I wish you the best of luck and don't do anything serious until you're 25 or older. That's the best advice I ever got.

[Wolfgang]

Thank you all. Keep in mind this thread is over a year old now. It sucked a year ago we got back together and just recently parted ways again. At the moment Im out and about doing all the things i couldnt with the ball and chain. Life is good.

[MurphysLaw]

Thank you all. Keep in mind this thread is over a year old now. It sucked a year ago we got back together and just recently parted ways again. At the moment Im out and about doing all the things i couldnt with the ball and chain. Life is good.

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[Smokin Gator]

Thank you all. Keep in mind this thread is over a year old now. It sucked a year ago we got back together and just recently parted ways again. At the moment Im out and about doing all the things i couldnt with the ball and chain. Life is good.

Thoughts and prayers with ya brother. If you want to get away you know I will cook and put together a herf for ya!!